Male Advice Preferred: Tattoos and relationships

[PointeStarr]

Im trying to collect opinions, My friends and I got into a debate about why I am still single.
They blame it on the fact that I have a "tramp-stamp" and said if i didnt have it I would be taken by now.

But I honestly dont believe guys are that judgemental.

So I ask you guys;
If you see a girl and find out she has a tramp stamp,
Do you automatically disregaurd her as a girl you could be interested in?
Do you only see her as an object for a hookup?
Or does it even matter?

[Brandon]

Tramp stamps are only part of the whole. It's not so much the fact that a woman that has a tramp stamp that can potentially turn people off, it's how she presents it. If a woman bends over to pick something up that she unintentionally drops and I see her tramp stamp, then I wouldn't think anything of it because she did her best to hide that kind of tattoo but my perverted self couldn't help but look. But if she's got a shirt that shows her stomach, then she's glorifying her tramp stamp. She's indirectly presenting herself in a sexual manner, and thus we will only see her as a potential sex partner. Of course, it also depends on how physically attractive she is. If she's fine as hell, but we just somehow notice she has a tramp stamp when she tries to hide it, it'll probably give us (or at least me) a false sense of hope that she "goes all the way" and is easy to get into. Because what could be better than a fine ass woman advertising herself sexually to make the process of having sexual intercourse with her more simplistic and relaxed?

So it largely depends on how attractive you are, and what you wear (that exposes the tramp stamp or doesn't). It could be both: some guys could look at you as an object for a hook up, or they could just completely disregard you on the assumption that your body contains more semen than it does water.

[AmazonQueen]

im not a guy but i don't think it matters, most guys i know think tramp stamps are hot. or any tattoos at all but could care less if you have em our not

[1nkedsurface]

I know I'm not a guy but, I think thats a lame excuse for being single. I've never had a date or boyfriend in my life and don't have one tat or piercing on my body.

[MattiLikesToHelp]

I just made a huge msg and it got deleted. Very disapointed. what i was trying to tell you was.... The only people who are going to judge you are those who base first impressions on appearence. Someone who is mature willl see past your skin. I can tell from this msg that you do not put off a wrong vibe. Sadly when I see a girl with a tramp stamp I see her as a wild some what untamed women. I cant help it. If i get to know her then my opinion most likley changes. Try not to show off your tatto? i guess thats my advice. If no ne can see your tatto then introductions shouldnt be hard on you. Go meet someone and forget about your tatto. Maybe down the road let them see it. If he is any kind of man he wont be turned off or afraid of your tat. If any guys have judged you or turned you away becuase of your tatto then sadly they are just not mature enough. But dont think on it at all. My religion says tattos are wrong but i dont mind them

[jellyfish]

I dont understand how having a trmap stamp would even matter?!
Someone who judges by appearance are incredibly shallow!

[Skeleton]

I think it's a stupid reason as to why you'd be single. You're single because you haven't found anyone yet not because your tattoo is putting everyone off because people will like you for your personality, not what tattoos you have.

[Brandon]

Originally Posted by jellyfish

I dont understand how having a trmap stamp would even matter?!
Someone who judges by appearance are incredibly shallow!

Being shallow is part of human nature. We all have preferences and we all judge people. It's biological and therefore something we can't change but can control. Similarities attract and therefore wouldn't want to date a woman who wants more of a sexual relationship rather than intimate relationship. It's not called a tramp stamp for no reason. A woman may like having a tattoo directly above her ass cheeks, but what purpose does it serve? It's not like it's a tattoo that you can enjoy looking at because it's very difficult to look at that location of the body without using mirrors. For the most part, the only people who are going to be able to see it are everyone but yourself during the day time. So if you get something for others to see clearly but for you its much more difficult, then it's obvious that you're getting a tattoo to attract other people. And considering the fact that it's not much higher than your ass, you're inviting people to look at your ass as well. Therefore, tramp stamps promote sexual attraction (for many reasons). If a tramp stamp promotes sexual attraction, then it's promoting physical attraction as well and thus promotes others to being shallow. Therefore, tramp stamps promote shallow behavior. If it promotes shallow behavior, which there's nothing wrong with it, and being shallow is biological, then there's nothing incredibly shallow about it. It's just a fact of life and if a woman is afraid of being negatively judged for having a tramp stamp, then perhaps getting a tattoo above her ass is not the best approach even if she thinks nothing of it (which I highly doubt). It's not about what she thinks, it's about what society thinks. And now you understand.

[Kanye West]

Hey Samantha Noel,

While I do think that your particular tattoo may turn off a few guys (for whatever reason such as the guy not liking the "tramp stamp" or not liking tattoos in general) it's definitely not a big reason too debate about on why you're single.

Answering your last 3 questions, it doesn't matter to me, though overall, I would probably have a preference for girls without tattoos.

[mei]

Interesting. Honestly i think it really depends on the guy some guys like tattoos some guys don't, its really a matter of preference for example personally i have a bunch of tattoos and i like tattoos so i happen to find them attractive at the same time i have some friends who would never get a tattoo and would never date a girl with one so i guess what i am tryin to say is it would really depend on the guy

[jellyfish]

Originally Posted by Brandon

Being shallow is part of human nature. We all have preferences and we all judge people. It's biological and therefore something we can't change but can control. Similarities attract and therefore wouldn't want to date a woman who wants more of a sexual relationship rather than intimate relationship. It's not called a tramp stamp for no reason. A woman may like having a tattoo directly above her ass cheeks, but what purpose does it serve? It's not like it's a tattoo that you can enjoy looking at because it's very difficult to look at that location of the body without using mirrors. For the most part, the only people who are going to be able to see it are everyone but yourself during the day time. So if you get something for others to see clearly but for you its much more difficult, then it's obvious that you're getting a tattoo to attract other people. And considering the fact that it's not much higher than your ass, you're inviting people to look at your ass as well. Therefore, tramp stamps promote sexual attraction (for many reasons). If a tramp stamp promotes sexual attraction, then it's promoting physical attraction as well and thus promotes others to being shallow. Therefore, tramp stamps promote shallow behavior. If it promotes shallow behavior, which there's nothing wrong with it, and being shallow is biological, then there's nothing incredibly shallow about it. It's just a fact of life and if a woman is afraid of being negatively judged for having a tramp stamp, then perhaps getting a tattoo above her ass is not the best approach even if she thinks nothing of it (which I highly doubt). It's not about what she thinks, it's about what society thinks. And now you understand.

So what if I said I have a tattoo at the top of my back? Have I got that to draw attention to myself? No. I got it because I like it, and it holds meaning to me.
Shallowness is a part of human nature yes, but why suddenly label a girl as a slag because she has a tattoo above her bum? She could be completley the opposite. What about guys who have this area tattooed?

Anyway, if a person actually took the time to get to know another person, tattoos are irrelevant, and thats the 'bottom' line

[DarkSeph]

It would make be a factor with first impressions, if the guy had a preference for no tattoos and he'd never talked to you in his life. But beyond that it really shouldn't matter. As soon as any guy gets to know you, then he should hopefully judge you on personality, and if you're a decent person, appreciate you for that.

The type of guys who judge based on appearance, or even don't bother getting to know you based on appearance, are not worth going out with. Of course some girls go through tons of relationships, but in reality very few people in general find someone nice without searching for a while.

Just be yourself. Being yourself and proud of who you are pretty much dissuades the guys who wouldn't be good potential partners, and will one day attract the person who's perfect for you.

[Brandon]

Originally Posted by jellyfish

So what if I said I have a tattoo at the top of my back? Have I got that to draw attention to myself?

Potentially. Men and women can do a lot of things with the intent to draw attention. Women can expose their cleavage in unnecessary situations, some men will take their shirts off when playing basketball to show off their muscles to the ladies. Your intention of the tattoo may be a way of expressing yourself, but expressing yourself through tattoos does not mean that you're drawing attention to yourself unless you do things to intentionally draw attention to it like wear spaghetti straps and all that kind of stuff.

Originally Posted by jellyfish

Shallowness is a part of human nature yes, but why suddenly label a girl as a slag because she has a tattoo above her bum? She could be completley the opposite.

Well, let's refer back to what I originally said in the thread:

Originally Posted by Brandon

Tramp stamps are only part of the whole. It's not so much the fact that a woman that has a tramp stamp that can potentially turn people off, it's how she presents it.

With that being said, tramp stamps don't "suddenly" label a woman as a slag. Just because you get a tramp stamp doesn't mean you're a slut. It's much more complicated than that. When a tattoo becomes more than a tattoo, there's a lot of society's views on that kind of tattoo to consider. It's like saying people who get tattoos also smoke pot and say "fuck the government." In some circumstances that's true, but not always. You have to take their personality and how they present the tattoo into consideration. So no, you don't "suddenly" become a slut just from having a tramp stamp. However, it gives you more potential at looking like a slut. In a biological perspective, we just feel more comfortable when we label things. Your name is considered a label, depression is considered a label, cars are considered a label, eyes, nose, ears, mouth. Practically everything has a label. Labels are inevitable in society.

Originally Posted by jellyfish

What about guys who have this area tattooed?

Then they're made fun of. I make fun of my sister's boyfriend all the time about having a tramp stamp. Obviously tramp stamps are more geared toward women though because society says that being a guy and liking sex is okay, but women who like sex are morally corrupt.

Originally Posted by jellyfish

Anyway, if a person actually took the time to get to know another person, tattoos are irrelevant, and thats the 'bottom' line

In a perfect society, sure. But we're far from perfect and will never be perfect therefore we're going to have conflicts such as these.

[guillotine_blades]

I have a tramp stamp...and chest tattoos, and tattoos on both sides of my rib cage, and on my shoulder, and on my arm, and my upper back.

I have never had trouble dating because of my tattoos, if anything they were ice breaker conversation starters.

I did not get my tattoos for anyone but myself. If a guy didn't want to be with me because of my ink, then they don't deserve my time anyways. And before you even say it, Most of the guys I have dated have either one or 2 small tattoos, or none at all, so it has nothing to do with them being overly inked either. I don't want to be with a man that would not "ask me out" just because he sees one of my tattoos, because obviously he didn't want to get to know me anyways if he is going to judge me based on having a tattoo that is an EXTREMELY popular placement for tattoos on women. Even my mom has one lol My fiance only had one when we met, I had/have 9. He is a total country home grown guy that would never think about getting even half of the amount of tattoos that I have, and thats fine, my tattoos aren't for him, they are for me. And he loves me anyways He didn't let them stop him from asking me out on a date, they shouldn't stop anyone who is worth it from asking you out honey!


ETA- also let me point out, that during the summer, I proudly show off ALL of my tattoos. I love them and am proud of them! Thats about 30 hrs under a needle for that art, heck yeah I am going to show it off! And on our first date, my fiance took me out on his boat, so on our FIRST date, he saw them all since I was in a swimsuit during the entire date, so its not like I hid them from him at all.

[WillO'Wisp]

First off, I don't believe it's fair to call them tramp stamps. A tattoo is a tattoo and that's it, regarding whatever part of your body it is on it doesn't matter and it shouldn't matter.
I think if someone cares about whether the person they are interested in has tattoos or not, that person isn't worth your time and is shallow. It would be like judging a book by its cover, going by the outer appearances of the person instead of looking inside the person to see what really matters and really is important, what their hearts and minds are like.