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View Poll Results: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were?
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Question Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 08:43 PM

Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were?

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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 08:50 PM

No, as long as it wasn't with loads of other people, they would help you and be gentle cos they know you need tlc x
   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 08:56 PM

i wouldnt, because if they wernt still together, then it must have been a mistake.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 08:58 PM

Virginity is an overblown concept that does more harm then good, so no.

In fact, if I was a virgin, and some older chick wanted my v-card, I'd jump at it.

Just remember, always wrap it before you tap it folks.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 09:08 PM

Wouldn't bother me at all


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 09:18 PM

It wouldn't bother me at all because that doesn't make a difference to the kind of person I would see them as.





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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 09:20 PM

I honestly don't know. I've always been my boyfriends' first girlfriend, so they've always been virgins. I'm still a virgin as well. xD





   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 22nd 2011, 09:24 PM

I don't think it would put me off as long as it wasn't with loads of people :-)


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 23rd 2011, 10:31 PM

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Just remember, always wrap it before you tap it folks.
I'd almost forgotten how cheesy that phrase actually sounds...

Anyway, no it wouldn't put me off dating them - I'm realistic enough about the real world to know that the odds of someone my age still being a virgin are at best 50-50 and what someone has done before I met them (provided it wasn't illegal) isn't really my concern. I judge people based on who they are as people, not what their story is.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 23rd 2011, 11:10 PM

As long as they're not looking for sex at the moment, no.
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 23rd 2011, 11:18 PM

nah... It might make things easier if you decide to have sex anyway
   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 23rd 2011, 11:23 PM

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i wouldnt, because if they wernt still together, then it must have been a mistake.
Not necessarily. I'm not still with the first person I had sex with, but it wasn't a mistake...

Honestly?? Yes, it would, but only because I remember how much I used to hate people thinking I was innocent and inexperienced. It wouldn't make me feel more pressured to have sex, I think.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 12:37 AM

It wouldn't bother me as long as they were STI free.
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 12:41 AM

It wouldn't put me off but I'd be really intimidated. That was an issue with one of my previous crushes and I was having panic attacks


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 12:59 AM

Nope, wouldn't bother me


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 01:05 AM

i think that everyone makes mistakes, and we learn from them. Mistakes help us grow, to become better people, even though mistakes can really hurt us. If someone isn't a virgin, but is willing to make a commitment to not have sex again until it is really worth it, then I say, give them the chance to prove themselves
   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 01:59 AM

I actually PREFER when my boyfriends have had sex. It doesn't pressure me, but I always assume they're "talented" if they have some experience. (So far it's held true... score!)


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 02:29 AM

No I wouldn't not date them just for that reason.
Now if there had been sexually active before me, and I planned on having sex with them, I would want them to be STD tested before we did anything (regardless of me being a virgin or not). It's all about safety.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 02:43 AM

No I don't think it would bother me unless all they were looking for was sex. And of course they would need to be STD free.


   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 02:55 AM

It wouldn't bother me. All my partners had experience previously to me.
I'd prefer them to have had experience, it's just a little awkward and difficult if they are a virgin. I can only coach so much


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 05:38 AM

No. As long as they respected my wishes to wait. I dated non-virgins pretty much everytime.
   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 06:50 AM

Nope, I can't expect everyone I see to be a virgin.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 05:48 PM

it wouldn't bother me either. as a previous user said it's a little intiminating because i feel more pressure to have sex. but it wouldnt put me off though i think i prefer that my boyfriend is a virgin as long as i am i guess, since i found out my boyfriend is a virgin even at 19 its made me alot for comfortable with him, but even if he wasnt it wouldnt stop me from dating him


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 09:19 PM

It probably wouldn't put me off unless they have already had sex with a lot of people. I'm still a virgin and proud of that fact, but if someone else has already had sex and wants to date me, I'm not going to care unless they have had a lot of other partners and don't pressure me into having sex with them.
   
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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 24th 2011, 09:45 PM

I wouldn't care. I would probably actually prefer if he wasn't one, because then he would have a bit more experience.


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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 25th 2011, 03:27 PM

When I was still a virgin? Yeah, I think it would've bothered me.

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Re: Would it put you off dating someone if you found out they weren't a virgin and you were? - February 25th 2011, 03:31 PM

It wouldn't bother me, no. As long as they were fine with the fact I was a virgin.
   
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