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I like my best friend... -
February 23rd 2011, 07:28 PM
This I think would be a problem for most people, especially if she already has a boyfriend (despite that it is a bit of a "let's just say we're going out to avoid gay and lesbian rumours" sort of thing... she actually does like him), but I just happen to be FTM. I'm 14, so pre-everything. I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me because she doesn't like girls and I have a female body, and she is one of those people that are so clever that she finds the social norms quite strange, and she can barely string to coherent sentence together without going off on a complete tangent.
I'm not sure what I should do... I mean, what if I tell her and our friendship falls apart? She is my best friend after all, and I need all the friends I can get. |
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Re: I like my best friend... -
February 23rd 2011, 10:20 PM
She has a boyfriend, and she's happy with him... so why mess with that? I'd say to let it go for now. Be content with her friendship.
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Re: I like my best friend... -
February 23rd 2011, 10:21 PM
Hi there.
 You're not going to like what I have to say, but I imagine it'd be more helpful for me to say what I truly think than to sugarcoat it all over the place. Here's the first problem: - She's in a relationship. And you mentioned that she likes the guy. That right there means that she's off limits to you and everyone else who may want to pursue her. So, just given that information alone, I would advise against telling her. Second problem: - If she's not attracted to females, I would imagine it would be highly difficult for her to find physical attraction to ANYONE in a female body, you know? And that is the second reason I would advise against telling her... I know that may seem harsh, but I guess it is what it is, you know? Its tough to like a best friend. I've liked one of my best friends before, but he was already dating someone. So, I had to swallow my feelings and just kind of try to move on. Its not fun, but you don't want to miss opportunities with other people (which could be GREAT) -- which you WILL miss as long as you are telling yourself you have feelings for her and only her. Hang in there, and take good care of yourself. Edit: Robin got there first! Quote:
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Re: I like my best friend... -
February 23rd 2011, 10:24 PM
I'm gonna agree with Robin on this one, but if something happens with her relationship, and you give her some time, I think being honest would be a good plan (I'm assuming she knows you're FTM)
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Re: I like my best friend... -
February 27th 2011, 07:31 PM
Howard. I again Appolgise for all that you are going through. If this girl (I know I've told you this before... But it's the truth) can't see what a GREAT guy you are she doesn't deserve you. You are way too good for her. Think of this: If you can stand on the sidelines and wait on her she'll come to you is she loves you. Don't wait your whole life. But be open to her turning around and loving you. If she never does, like in White Hoarse By Taylor Swift: "You're in my rearview mirror dissapering now" and "Someday I will find someone who will actually treat me well."
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