Should I tell him?

[Fallen_Angel93]

I really like one of my guy friends and want to be more than just friends with him. He's not over his ex who I'm guessing was his first love. I can't tell him I want to be more than friends with him knowing he's not over her yet. I don't want to have to compete with someone I don't even know. Everytime he talks about her he gets this far away look in his eyes. We hang out all the time and I see him everyday on the bus and at school. When we hang out we kiss and hold hands and pretty much act like we are dating, but we aren't. Everytime he kisses me knees go weak. He's the first guy I've liked since my fiance left me in July. I'm 17 and he's 16. Should I tell him and see what happens or keep it to myself?

[Xineas]

To be blunt... You can tell him whenever you feel like it.

Just make sure you're ready to accept the answer. He might not be ready yet to get over his ex, but that doesn't mean he says 'no' to a relationship with you. I'd let him know that you like him a lot and that you'd like your relationship to become more serious than it is now.

Give him time to think about it and don't be let down if he says no at this point, simply because he's not ready yet.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

[Fallen_Angel93]

i didnt have to tell him i like him because he already knew. we hung out again last night and he was like i dont date girls that get less than a B's. I've only got 3 classes that I have less than a B in, so I'm going to get those 3 grades up to at least a B and maybe I'll have a chance with him.

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by Fallen_Angel93

i didnt have to tell him i like him because he already knew. we hung out again last night and he was like i dont date girls that get less than a B's. I've only got 3 classes that I have less than a B in, so I'm going to get those 3 grades up to at least a B and maybe I'll have a chance with him.

Honey, you need to let it go then.
This is a GIANT red flag!
Think about it? If you get those grades up, but suddenly, then go down again, is he going to leave you?
Basically, he's making fun of your intelligence. But, not just yours, every girl who has ever liked him.
You don't need to improve yourself for some guy. While it's good you want to improve your grades, you shouldn't have to do it so the guy you like will like you back.
He should like you for you, not just because you have good grades.

[Quartet]

Originally Posted by Fallen_Angel93

i didnt have to tell him i like him because he already knew. we hung out again last night and he was like i dont date girls that get less than a B's. I've only got 3 classes that I have less than a B in, so I'm going to get those 3 grades up to at least a B and maybe I'll have a chance with him.

What the hell are you thinking?
I'm sorry to be so blunt, but seriously, female, wake the heck up.
That guy sounds like a tool.
If a guy were to say to me what that guy said to you, he would get a nice surprise when he found out I don't take lightly to those that belittle me.
Not only is he rejecting you IN THE WORST WAY POSSIBLE he is also mocking who you are.
If I were you I'd loose that friend.
You also need to find your self worth.

[Fallen_Angel93]

if i really wanted to get straight A's i could. i just don't try. i use to be a straight A student, but that was never good enough for anyone. after awhile i just stopped studying and caring about school. his reason for not wanting to date someone who has less than B's is because he doesn't want to be with someone that fails. last night he also said he wants to go out with me. he does like me for me he just doesn't want to be with someone that fails espcially on purpose like me.

[Quartet]

Originally Posted by Fallen_Angel93

if i really wanted to get straight A's i could. i just don't try. i use to be a straight A student, but that was never good enough for anyone. after awhile i just stopped studying and caring about school. his reason for not wanting to date someone who has less than B's is because he doesn't want to be with someone that fails. last night he also said he wants to go out with me. he does like me for me he just doesn't want to be with someone that fails espcially on purpose like me.

It still feel like thats a cop out and it's also sad that he's saying he can't go out with someone that fails.

I'm sure you could do better in school, but don't let it be because of this guy. Your education is very important, either way.

He is still putting a label on you and you're letting him. My opinion would be o find someone that accepts you, not someone that is specifically trying to change you. AND make you feel crappy about your grades. That just sucks. I failed two classes my last quarter, if my boyfriend had said, "Oh, we gotta break up, I don't date failures," to me, I'm pretty sure we wouldn't be together today.