He Doesn't Believe Me

[lilmissdontwannabehere]

There is a guy I hang out with. He is one of my friends and like my best friends little brother. (there dad calls him his long lost son) he was supposed to be in seventh grade, but was held back so now he is two grades younger than me. I know he is still only a year younger than me but i still think it was be weird if we dated. Plus i just got burned from my first break up and im not quite ready to go out with him yet. But he keeps doing things like patting his lap if i say i can't find a place to sit. and asking me things that i wouldnt do unless we were dating. He told me he likes me, and i told him that im not wanting a boyfriend right now but maybe in a few years. He just isn't getting it though and keeps calling me things like his future girl, and refering to himself as my future man. im not sure what to do. he is my friend and i dont want to avoid him but i also dont want to hurt him.

[Aletheia*]

Hey Lexie,
Well, first off, you need to be completely clear with him that you don't want a relationship with him. He's your friend, so obviously, you don't want to hurt his feelings or lead him onto a path where he is going to think that you want to be with him. But, you have to be CLEAR about how you feel about him. Tell him your not ready for a boyfriend, and if he continues to say things like "my future girl" then, ask him to speak to you in private, and tell him that you do not appreciate how he goes around and says things like that.
Also, the way you came about telling him that you don't want a boyfriend, maybe in a few years, is giving him the idea that you don't want HIM to be your boyfriend right now, but that you'll want to date in the future.
Be persistant with him. Start hanging out with a huge group of people, so that way your not technically avoiding him, but it will be harder for the two of you to be around each other the entire time.

[lilmissdontwannabehere]

thanks, i'll talk to him about it.