Relationship in distress

[Angeal]

My "boyfriend" likes my best friend more than me and we've been dating for about a month or two, and we've dated in the past. I asked him about it today and he said that he didn't want to break our hearts, but he couldn't choose between us. I really like him, I don't know if I love him, but he doesn't know that what he's doing is breaking my heart. Also there's other guy who's my friend and he wants to become my boyfriend. I like him as a boyfriend, but I don't know what to do because I don't know if my boyfriend wants to break it off or not. This weekend was the downfall of our relationship because so much happened and that's when I found out about him liking my best friend who have also went out with him in the past but not for long, and right now she's mad at him. Urrggghh....I'm just so confused. Can some one please tell me what I should do? Should I tell him it's over or what, because I don't want to break his heart either.

[NuHalo]

No matter what his reasons, it's a tad cruel that he has to put you through this.
I can give him credit for being honest and open about it, but that should be something you can use to make a decision about this situation. You don't have to let him drag you around because of his mixed up feelings between you and your friend.

I know that you have feelings for him, but you need to ask yourself if they are strong enough to keep holding on while he is deciding for himself what to do. You should make a decision as well, for yourself, instead of waiting for him. You do have a degree of control here. If you want to stay with him then you need to make that clear by talking tp him and sorting this out between yourselves once and for all.

On the other hand, if you decide it makes more sense to break it off, then don't be afraid to do it. Remember the reasons why you would be doing it.

In any case, give it some thought. And remember that you don't have to wait while being dragged around.

Best wishes,
Shaun

[Aletheia*]

I agree with Shaun.
You shouldn't have to be a choice between you and your best friend who YOUR boyfriend likes. It should be you, of course.
Just him having feelings for your best friend should be a red flag.
Honestly, you should break things off with him before he hurts you further. Be the dumper, not the dumpee. While it will still hurt, it will keep you from having a broken heart in the long run.
The other boy you mentioned seems like a better fit for you. He likes you for you, and isn't having a problem choosing between you or your best friend.
Not only is that a very hurtful situation, it could cause problems with you and your friend in the long run if instead of you breaking things off, he dumps you and immediately goes after your friend. By you letting go first, you know it was your choice, and NOT HIS.

[Angeal]

Thanks guys for the Comments and Today I told him that if they were to go back out that we don't need to hold out any longer, he said okay, so we are officially over, and the other guy is now my boyfriend. Again thanks for the help, much appreciated.

[NuHalo]

It's good to hear things panned out nice for you. May your new boyfriend and you get along well and have a good time together!

[Angeal]

Thanks NuHalo