Non-PG13 (Strong Language): I guess thats over

[Dedalus]

I've been stuck in a bit of a rut lately. Haven't been feeling great so this was a bit depressing....

I was working in the library late tonight. I left for a cigarette break at about 9 o'clock and it was dark. I had a head ache so I thought I'd go to the arts & humanities building for my cigarette and sit on the wall there for the quiet.

I had kissed a girl on Valentines night. She was lovely. I spent about 2 hours with her and her friends. She was newly single, and by newly it must have been a matter of days. I'd been texting her since and I hadn't in the last few days. Her ex was in her circle of friends and he saw us kissing - in fact he sat opposite me and her and glared at me. He tried to fight me outside the nightclub, but those days are over for me. I just walked away. I saw him once last week when I was having a cigarette outside the arts building betweena lecture and there was a big crowd ad he just glared at me as he walked by.

Anyway, back to just now. There was one guy sitting on the wall having a cigarette outside the arts building. I just glanced at him as I went for my cigarette and he looked up at me and I thought I recognised him. He really aggressively said 'Hello, how are you?' to me and I just said 'How's it going? and sat down a bit further away. It was only when I sat down I suddenly realised that was the ex-boyfriend.

Anyway I was having my cigarette wondering if he was going to do anything and then the girl appeared. She must have recognised me, but I only noticed her when I looked over at him and saw her beside him having a cigarette with him. It was really fucking surreal for me, because this was the 3 of us there...me, him and her...at 9 o'clock at night. She must have known I was there, but she never acknowledged me. I left when I finishedmy cigarette.

They must be back together. Why else would they meet up at 9 o'clock there? Even more unnerving is the fact that he recognised me and would talk to me. It should be the other fucking way round. I usually take the higher ground and put people in the position he put me in - and he had the fucking girl too. They must be back together - and thats pretty depressing.

[bitesize]

It doesn't necessarily mean they were back together. Did it seem like they were ~ were they acting like it?? It seemed from your other threads like she definitely had a few issues with this guy so they could have just been meeting up to talk. And did she definitely see that it was you??

[Dedalus]

Originally Posted by bitesize

It doesn't necessarily mean they were back together. Did it seem like they were ~ were they acting like it?? It seemed from your other threads like she definitely had a few issues with this guy so they could have just been meeting up to talk. And did she definitely see that it was you??

Well, she doesn't smoke and he gave her a cigarette. He didn't have her arm around her...but I mean, I think they must be....and then again they're both in the same circle of friends...but meeting up at 9pm outside arts....

Bit awkwards I suppose that she didn't acknowledge me and I was about 10m away....

I wish I decked him that night now. One of my friends wished that he decked him and I had stopped him.....and with the threat of a stabbing and the fact that this guy still holds a grudge, my best friend is really worried about me - I mean, he monitors the girls I talk to in nightclubs now to make sure I don't chat up some guy's girlfriend. He really gave out to me when I was exchanging numbers with this girl who had a boyfriend.

I haven't texted her in a week tomorrow.

[ChelseaSmile]

Maybe you should try texting her and talking about it. Girls don't always want to be the one to have to text you. So if you talk to her about it, you'll get the answers you want, and there won't be any confusion.

[Dedalus]

Originally Posted by ChelseaSmile

Maybe you should try texting her and talking about it. Girls don't always want to be the one to have to text you. So if you talk to her about it, you'll get the answers you want, and there won't be any confusion.

I dunno...I mean I only met her that night, was texting her solid for a week...and she wouldn't meet up in uni because things were so messed up with her ex. she said we'll just keep this as a friend's thing, meaning we'll score in ngihtclubs....and then I texted her when I was pretty sure we were in the same nightclub and she didn't text me back till it closed....so I haven't texted her since then.

And its not that I'm even stuck for fucking options so I dunno why I'm that bothered....I got another 2 numbers last night...and I haven't bothered with them.....

[Dedalus]

saw her with him again today

[Dedalus]

I found out I actually have a mutual friend with her. He lives in the flat below me and I just asked him, you know Simone ****** don't you? And he said yeah. I asked, whats the story with her? And he says, she's single, boy. I told him I scored her valentine's night and he suddenly stops and thinks about whether she was single then. So it was obviously a matter of days that she broke up with him.

I told him I had seen her with him last week, and he said, well as far as I knowJoe, she's still single.


So, I added her on facebook.

Whats the plan of action?????

[Duty]

Dedalus,

I have read quite a few of your threads. A few people have tried to be subtle, and suggest you sort your act out. I think it's about time you read what others were saying.

Quite frankly, your behavior is disgraceful. Every thread you make is about hooking up with some new girl (Sometimes there are multiple girls per thread) and you're asking for advice from us about your "Relationship" problems. Dedalus, you are not in a relationship. You kissed some stranger on Valentines Day (And if your last thread was to be believed, you did it even though you were out with another girl at the time) who happened to have a boyfriend. Yes, he is going to want to fight you. The girl sound like a cheating skank, and you probably deserve a smack in the face. Why? Because you play these stupid games. Play stupid games, you win stupid prizes.

Stop smoking.
Stop hooking up with randoms.
Get some better friends.
Stop flicking from girl to girl.

Your problem isn't what you think it is. You think your problem is that you don't know what to do with this girl. Your real problem is that you don't know what to do with yourself.

Cheers,

- Duty

[AmazonQueen]

I agree with the above user. I really do think you are chasing fire with this one. You need to stop it. Someones going to get hurt here weather it be you, her, him, emotionally or phsyically. Don't you think the threat of a stabbing is taking to far to keep pushing your luck? Check you head man your deffinately chasing the dragon so to speak