How do I move on?

[hockeysister]

I feel so stupid for writing this, but I just can't let him go. I spent five months of my life trying to prove that he could be himself and have people who love him for that, but then he made the hockey team and started partying and smoking weed. He sent me a message drunk at 4:30 in the morning about how he doesn't care about us or any of his old friends and he doesn't really think about it. This isn't the first time he's said things like this, or acted this way. I know that I'm supposed to just let it go and move on, but I really just want my friend back. He was such and amazing person, but he changed himself for people who wouldn't have given him the time of day 6 months ago. I thought he was different than all those other high school guys. I don't know how to get over someone I cared about (and still do!) so much. I was just wondering if anyone could give me the steps I need to take.

[lilmissdontwannabehere]

Hey, there really is no steps.Some people think that because im only thirteen i never had to get over someone. Really iv gotten over a lot of people. You just need to let yourself heal. Go do somthing without him. Hang out with other people. A friend is one of the hardest people to let go because you thought you would be able to talk to them and trust them forever. If you want to talk just PM me

[WillO'Wisp]

If he's going to act like a jerk and be drunk and stupid, then just forget about him. Cut off all communication with him. Tell him you're done talking to him and will not have anything to do with him until he stops drinking and acting like a total idiot.
Honestly if he's that easily swayed into drinking and changes this easily, you're better off without him.

[jadamson]

They key is to let go, forget and move on. There was obviously a very grave reason as to why you called it quits, and this could be his true colors-- not just him acting out.

[jelli1224]

Hey there,
First of all, I'm sorry you lost a goodfriend of yours. Friends are the worst because you trust them to be there forever. Like the earlier posts said you need to heal. The best way to do that is time. I would know. It took me months to get over this guy and nothing worked. I finally stopped trying. Eventually it happens. But with him I think you need to tell him that you're done with him acting this way and when he decides to stop drinking and get his life together, he will be a welcome friend again. But I think the best thing to do right now is try to move on, and that takes time. I hope I was able to give you some assistance. Feel free to PM me if you need anything! (:

jelli1224