This sucks.

[MadPoet]

So, all my life I've always been straight. I've thought about how hot guys are, but never thought of girls in that way. But I never had a boyfriend, and to make a long story short it got kind of annoying liking guys and never having them like me. So when someone finally said they liked me, that they thought I was pretty and more than a friend, I jumped at the opportunity. But of course that person would be another girl.

I wasn't sure how I felt about her until last night. I went some place with her and she was on the phone with her friend and talking about how she's her best friend and everything. And all I can think is "I wish that was me." She's had a lot of girlfriends and honestly I'd feel closer to her being her friend rather than her girlfriend.

I want to be with a guy. I got desperate. She thinks I really like her, because I learned I'm good at faking emotions. Doesn't that sound terrible? Thing is I'm a good person, at first I told her I wouldn't date her because I didn't want to find out I was straight and hurt her. But she said she didn't care...

The things she says to me are so nice, I have so much fun with her. I don't want to ruin that. I know you all will tell me to be honest, but let's face it... I probably will wait for her to get sick of me. It usually doesn't take long.

Just had to get this off my chest... I'm such a bitch, aren't I?

[losing touch.]

no, you're not a bitch.. you're just in a difficult situation. i really think you should tell her though. it's not fair on either of you to have this whole 'relationship' formed basically on a lie. tell her that you want to be really good friends with her but nothing more. hopefully she'll understand. don't wait around for her to move on - in the mean time surely it would be really awkward anyway - considering you're straight and don't have those feelings for her?

[Brandon]

I think what you did was perfectly reasonable. When in desperation, we kind latch onto anything. Any kind of love is good enough and it caused you to date a woman without having any emotional attachment to her. But you have to realize that you'd be MORE of a bitch if you manipulated her and DIDN'T tell her the truth than if you told her the truth. The sooner you tell her, the more she's going to understand. Otherwise, she'll continue to become more attached to you. If something down the road happens in the relationship, she might feel that it's her fault that she's ruining the relationship. There's a lot of potential confusion down the road and I think it would be best, like you said, to be honest. Because you'd be a better person if you told her the truth.

[mae_kas]

Hi there,

You're not a bitch, but you should tell her the thruth since you've realized you only want to be a really close friend to her than her girlfriend.You shouldn't try to wait till she gets "sick of you" since she may really love you and not break it off like you like. So be honest, I know it's hard but you'll avoid a lot of guilt by that.

Otherwise, she'll continue to become more attached to you. If something down the road happens in the relationship, she might feel that it's her fault that she's ruining the relationship. There's a lot of potential confusion down the road and I think it would be best, like you said, to be honest. Because you'd be a better person if you told her the truth.

This is very true, so you shouldn't pretend like that since it won't get things better when it ends. I've been in a similar situation with my ex so if you want to talk things about feel free to PM anytime.