I can't get it up?

[fuzzeke28]

Hi everyone, im new to this forum. Im a guy, 16 years old and i have a problem. Im in this unofficial relationship with a girl, our parents do not know about us. Last wendsday, after school, we walked back to her house (no one was home) cause we wanted to hang out together. We went up into her room and we hung out for a bit. Evertually we begin talking about handjobs and she was acting like she was intrested in giving me one. I was nervious about it but i said why not. She pulled down my pants and my dick was as wilted as a flower in a desert! I couldn't get it up, i suppose i was really nervious because i never had a handjob before. So yeah, we gave up on that idea. I felt like a fool and i think she was upset because she thought she couldnt turn me on. I have no idea what happened, does anybody have any advice? It had to be something mental...

Also, does anybody else realise that when they are in a relationship, they feel... depressed? Like i hardly eat anymore, i masturbate less (especially recently because im upset with myself), I just don't feel like myself anymore. What happened on wensday? I have a feeling this is stress related and it must be mental. Any advice? Thanks guys

[TheLittleNinja]

Hey There!

PANIC NOT! Its perfectly normal for guys not to be able to get erections if they are nervous or stressed or have other things on their minds! Next time just try to relax, be yourself, and just chill - take rescue remedy or something before you go if you like - that might help calm nerves!

Regarding the depression when in a relationship; I can kind of understand. I certainly feel more restricted, I DO masturbate LESS - and I used to eat less, but that was due to a fear of people watching me eat! Haha.

You are a perfectly normal 16 year old my friend, please don't fret and upset yourself!

[Xineas]

Stress can kill the mood quite easily, unfortunately... Don't worry! There's nothing wrong with you for not being able to get it up, it happens. As Claire above here mentioned, stay calm and be yourself. Perhaps you need a little more stimulation? You could add in a blindfold and be at her mercy, for example. Just lay there and let her touch you all over. Perhaps you get off my stimulating her? Maybe her sounds turn you on massively? If you feel like it, you could suggest feeling her up if she's comfortable with that. First times are always tricky, so don't go worrying about it!

Relationships are all about making compromises on both ends, so it is restrictive in a way. Take it easy, you're young, you're new to this. Masturbating is healthy, so no need to keep yourself from doing that. Don't let this get you down. There's always a solution to a problem, it just takes time to find one... Don't be ashamed if there's a problem, it's likely that there are loads of people with the same issue.