heartbroken and i dont know what to do

[pursuit-of-happiness]

I have been talking to this guy for about six months now...and finally i broke it off because he still doesn't want a relationship right now. I fell in love with him though and I am so depressed. Is silent treatment my best bet so that maybe he will miss me and see what hes losing? Or should I just try to work things out with him and be happy again but still not get everything I want out of the relationship. He texted me but I feel like my best bet is to not text back even though all I want to do is talk to him because I cant get him off my mind.

[jelli1224]

Hey there,
It sounds to me that you have been talking to him for 6 months, but because he does not want to be in a relationship right now and that hurts you, you want to give him the silent treatment. Although I completely understand where you're coming from, I don't think that is the best way to go. I think you should text him back and make a point to be friendly, not flirty. If he does not want a relationship right now then you should respect that and be careful not to push his limits. But at the same time, you in no way want to shove him out of your life. Not only do you risk loosing any chance of dating him, you also loose any chance of a friendship. Without having all the information here, I think you need to back track and continue being friends, or at least try to be friends with him. If you back off and don't flirt with him or show him you are interested in a romantic way, but still show him you want to be friends I think you will gain a lot of respect. Please do keep in mind it is your choice in the long run that counts though. Logically think about your options and decide what's better for you. Good luck and if you want to explain further, tell me what happened, or just stop in to say hi I would love to hear from you.

Jelli1224

[Nicole!]

Hey there,

I know its super tough to hear that the guy you love doesn't want to be in a relationship. Although in this case, its not you, it is him in fact. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship then there really isn't anything that you can do.
So rather then giving him the silent treatment to make him miss you, I'd do it to take a break from him. If you keep talking, it will take even longer to get over him. Not talking will not be fun I know, but trust me it will help get him out of your mind.
Try and distract yourself by doing things you love and try not to be by yourself too often for a little while. Make lots of plans with friends and family.

Heartbreak is never fun, but its something that unfortunately a lot of us will have to go through. Your not alone in your feelings, I'm here if you ever want to talk.
Take care <3