Female Advice Preferred: A quick question...

[Chris Duguay]

Do girls like quiet and confident guys over louder guys? who tend to be jerks?

I am just asking, cause i am quiet and confident, and i feel like i am doing something wrong.. because my ex's always break up with me within a week...

Also, what do most girls look for in a guy? :/

[Reverie.]

I honestly don't think there is one kind of guy for girls over all, because otherwise, a lot of guys would be single forever. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, it just takes a girl to find what they like in you. I mean, quiet and confident could be on a spectrum really. Confidence is good but if it borders on up yourself then I personally don't like that.

Don't worry about what most girls want, you'll find the right person one day no matter what you're like. Keep doing what you're doing, you obviously care and that matters a hell of a lot to any one.

[Skeleton]

Every girl is different so they'll like different types of guy so I don't think all girls go for one type. I'm sorry to hear you've had bad luck with girls so far but it won't always be that way, eventually you'll meet a girl that'll like you for you.

I can't comment on what girls look most for in guys because well, as I said everyone is different and they'll want different things.

[SJaySmile]

Every girl is different and it really depends. The best thing you can do is just be yourself and if it doesn't work out, it was probably for the better. As hard as it is to just accept that, it's true.

And maybe your ex's had another problem, so you could talk to them about it or something to figure out what happened?

Hope it helped.

-SJay

[pixietheangel]

i personally look for someone with a nice personality, funny, good looking/cute, romantic and sweet/kind. Something like that. theres no definate thing i mean some girls like bad boys, others like quite boys. Dont try and change who you are though, it might not be you just the girls that you choose perhaps? someday a girl will come along who likes oyu for who you are. theres no certain type guys go for and no certain type girls go for. It all depends on the person, their background, religion, interests and preferences. Just try to keep it cool, be relaxed, dont try to hard, tell a joke or two? but dont worry. xx

[Darkgothicrose]

boys! don't get me started on boys. they like you one minute then BAM they don't wanna talk to you ever again!!! but trust me, you will find a guy who is looking for quiet and confident.
I've recently started dating one of my friends (we have liked each other for ages though)

[DandiCupcake]

For me myself, I look for a cute guy with confidence. I don't want him to sit there and not say a word, but I dont want him to be an over confident jerk that nobody likes.

Personally, he has to have these qualities:
-Be sweet. Even if it's just in a romantic way.
-Be cute. Even slightly. I don't want a total eyesore. (Wow I sound mean)
-Have time for me. I don't want him to ALWAYS be busy.
-Be good at something. Music, visual arts, sports, something.
-BE FUN. HUGE ONE. I don't want a dull guy that is awesome in every way, but I never ever ever have fun with him.

[crissy97]

well alot of girls like guys who arnt jurks but some do all i am saying is tht i dont like jurkes

[Ashes2493]

I prefer a guy that is quiet and confident, I don't like a guy who is loud cuz then it makes me feel like I just stand there and I don't get a word in.

But that's just me and i know for a fact that my friends and people I know prefer other types of guys.

[you'rebeautiful]

Mmm... Just because a guy may be loud/boisterous/more sociable, doesn't mean that he'll be a jerk; as guys are individuals, different guys will have different combinations of personality traits, depending on who they are and what their life's taught them so far.

Girls are individuals too that means that the personality traits that we look for, click with, and appreciate in a mate/fling/whathaveyou will differ depending on who we are, and what our lives have taught us so far.

There's no such thing as 'every girl's guy' (even if you don't consider the fact that not all girls like guys anyway :P)
You can't expect to be what every girl is looking for, just like not every girl can expect to be what you're looking for.

[facade]

Every girl has different things that they look in a guy (:

I prefer the quieter guys. I'm a quiet person, and usually feel no need to feel the silence with unnecessary chatter, and I would like for the guy I'm with to not want to fill the silence. I would just like to be able to sit there with him in silence and still feel close to him without the talking.

My advice, be confident. But don't be overly confident. Over confidence makes you sound cocky and jerk-like.
Be patient (: The right girl will come around <3

[rac146]

My bf was very quiet when we were first getting to know each other. Quiet, confident, and listened to me and asked alot of questions.

Now if i could get him to shut up....lol I'm kidding.

It's ok to be quiet, as long as you'll listen

[Aletheia*]

I'm into the loud guys. I dated a quiet person for two years and it just wasn't for me. My boyfriend is basically my equal when it comes to how loud we are. We like to voice our opinoins, and we never take no for an answer. We push and push until we get what we want. Part of the reason I fell for him was because he could be a jerk who could put me in my place when the time called for it. He keeps me on my toes.

[Concrete Angel]

As the previous posts have indicated, every girl is different and so like different types. You may not be doing anything wrong. Maybe the girl just isn't right for you?
For me, personally, I would like a guy who is confident, yes, but not overly-confident. Someone, who loves me for me and expects nothing more than what I am able to give, not like an effort won't be made. He should be, sweet, caring and loving and be willing to have conversations with me. Someone who is patient.
But again, it depends on the girl! And someone who likes to voice his opinion, but willing to accept other opinions and he should also be able to tell me what's in his heart.

Hope you find your girl! <3

[MacGuffin]

Every girl is different, and will want different things in a partner. Myself personally, I would prefer a quiet and confident guy over a loud and obnoxious one, although my ideal would be an outgoing and confident guy. Qualities I would look for in a partner are respect, honesty, loyalty, a good sense of humor, the ability to listen well, compassion, intelligence, passion, a sense of adventure, and responsibility.

[jelli1224]

Hey there Chris,

What every girl looks for in a guy is always different. Some girls like the quiet and confident, and others like guys that you would call jerks. It really just depends on the girl, and everyone is different. I want to let you know though that you just need to be yourself. Eventually the right girl will come along who will accept you for who you are. Do not change you and who you are because then you might miss that girl who will accept you for you. Good Luck there Chris, and if you ever want to talk then PM me.

Angelica

[Ambiance]

Well, it sounds like you really WANT a girlfriend, and you need to not put off that vibe. Girls dont wanna date guys that seem to really really want a girlfriend, because it makes us feel like you have no interest in us as individuals, but like we're filling a slot you need filled in your life, even if what you want is emotional stuff. And you really should wait to find a girl that you genuinely care for anyway.

[Gravestpulchra]

Perhaps you are going out with the wrong type of girl. To be quiet and confident is a very good thing.Just be yourself, it's okay to be single.

[Tynan]

what ive noticed is basically what a lot of the ladies here have said, girls like confident guys, also ive noticed most girls like outgoing guys, so if you can handle being confident and outgoing then you are in the clear for most girls

[Ally_Georgiiie]

well that depends on the girl... some like the "jerks" and some like the confident quiet types

[Troubled_Heart]

Quiet, shy, kind, someone who goes out of their way to impress but is not clingy... someone sweet who holds your hand in public, someone not afraid to make the first move but doesn't expect sex sex sex... <3

[savealife723]

I definitely agree that every girl is going to be interested in something a little bit different from the rest of the girls.

I honestly perfer a good medium in both things.
I want a boy to quiet, but I always want him to speak up and be able to converese.
I want a confident boy, but also one who is humble and easy-going.

Every girl is different, and I think it just comes down to finding a girl that's good for you. Try to learn from your expierences in each and every relationship you enter.

[misspeachy]

aww I love quiet guys, I find them really interesting and intriguing... and usually there the nicest and most confident underneath
I think that most girls see them as in a way not like manly enough, because their quiet and dont have the patience to get to know them- not me though .

I dont really look for anything in a guy, I'm attracted to so many different types.
but Generally I'd say someone whos polite and takes an interest in me. Also someone who takes care of themselves but doesnt look too into what they look like. someone who dresses well, but is quite casual. and someone who isnt always on their mobile phone, that puts me right of for some reason lol. also someone that takes an interest in me would be nice

[tsisawesome]

Personally, if a guy can make me laugh, he's got a key to my heart. To me, being able to laugh at himself when he messes up and make me laugh when i am down is one of the most beautiful aspects I can ask of a guy.
Btw, your girl will come along soon... Quiet guys are most times the best guys

[Monster.]

Like posted above everyone is vary's in what they want in a partner.
Just be happy with yourself and who you are and the boys will surly come.
You aren't doing anything wrong so don't worry.
Keep your head up<3

[katie4evrr1]

Ok, i doubt this post will be noticed with so many others. But i want to help...everything depends on the girl. Me for example, I'm loud once i am comfortable around people. but im shyer when im still getting to know someone. For me i want a guy that....
1. Is Confident
2. Funny
3. Isn't afraid to get alittle loud so his voice is heard
4. But still has a quieter, sweet side <3
however, thats what I want you shouldn't change yourself to fit other peoples idea of the perfect guy. Just be who you are and when the right girl finds you or you find her.... youll know and it will make it all the sweeter that you waited. Anymore questions message me!! hope i helped <3