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Exclamation WOW! - April 13th 2011, 04:40 AM

I screwed up big time.. I can't believe this...I'm about to get engaged and i cheated...With my ex girlfriend which is also my best friend for life. We got extremely drunk last weekend and made out in the girls bathroom at the bar. WOW im soo stupid. I love my fiance very much and too afraid to tell him cause he is one of those people that would never understand.
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Re: WOW! - April 13th 2011, 05:06 AM

If you keep it to yourself, it's going to stress you out much more than is necessary (temporarily) and eventually it'll come to surface. It seems cliche, but it's true: the truth always comes out.
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Re: WOW! - April 13th 2011, 05:58 AM

I agree with Quantum. The truth will come out. You just need to figure out whether or not you want to keep a secret or fill your fiance in. If he's the type to freak out, and I believe that he is since I read a few of your previous threads on here about him not being understanding of you being bisexual. However, it was just a kiss. Considering that you've done things sexually with her before, things could have been a lot worse than just a kiss.

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Re: WOW! - April 13th 2011, 06:40 AM

Hey Chrissy,

I agree with everyone else on this one. If you don't tell him about what happened then it will probably eat you up inside and you'll probably feel terrible about it. Not to mention that the truth always catches up with you eventually and it will seriously bite you on the butt. Okay, yeah, you messed up but I'm sure you don't need telling that and at the end of the day it has happened and you can't change that. Instead you need to focus on the present and figure out how you're going to deal with this. For me, communication is the biggest thing within a relationship so I think you'll probably need to sit your boyfriend down and talk to him about what has happened because even though he probably won't be happy about it, after he has calmed down and everything he will probably respect you so much more for telling the truth and being honest. Whatever happens, at least you would be able to hold your hands up and say you were honest about everything. I hope that I've been able to help you in one way or another and if you would like to talk further then feel free to either PM or VM me at anytime as I'm always more than happy to talk.

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Re: WOW! - April 13th 2011, 07:24 AM

Cheating is always a tough topic...but if he doesn't understand you being bisexual...that makes it harder.
Personally, I think that you should tell him. When telling him, you need to make sure to let him know that you are telling him because you feel terrible AND because you did want him to know before you get engaged. Do realize that getting engaged/married means that you are encasing your relationship, but this means you will need to work on sorting problems out. You should be honest in a relationship, especially if you are getting ready to take it to another level.

That is just me, I don't know your exact situation though. I do think that you should think about if it would kill you to keep it as a secret, or if you think it would be better to tell him.

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