This is driving me crazy.

[VampirePrincess]

Who hasn't had a crush on their lab partner, right? :/ I saw him at the beginning of my class and said "wow, he is my type...I better stay far away from him." only for the teacher to pair us up for our final project.

He's been giving me these very irritating mixed signals. "I'll see you later, okay?" he always asks in a caring tone, and never walks out of the room without making sure I have acknowledged him...if I don't he stands there tapping the desk until I do. If I walk into the computer lab he stares at me until I walk past him. And at the end of our presentation he gave me an amazing smile and held my gaze for longer than would normally be comfortable. He let me participate in conversations with his friends in the lab, and laughed at all my jokes (no one usually laughs, I always get blank looks. I'm just not funny).

Yet, when I located him outside of lab to give him back his flash drive (how someone manages to forget that, I have no clue) he gives me this "what are you doing here and why are you talking to me" kind of look, and was just like "uh, thanks." in a very uncaring tone and walked off. And if I'm in the computer lab with him, despite him staring at me he never comes over and says hi. He never offered to exchange phone numbers, only his school email address. And he didn't hang around after the project or invite me to lunch or anything like that, though we both had an hour before the next class.

Now I'm going crazy, because I don't know whether I should just let this go or try to pursue a relationship with him. I don't have any way to contact him - school email would not be checked since he's not taking summer classes. I'm too scared to add him on Facebook, or even on Twitter when he wouldn't know it's me (hooray for fake names). Lab is over, and next week is finals where we all have different schedules. So I won't be seeing him again unless it's randomly in the hallways or something. I hate thinking about someone this much when a chance at being with them seems like zilch! Any ideas what I should do? Thanks guys. Been forever since I had a crush on someone....

[VampirePrincess]

As strange as it feels to be the first comment on my own post, I forgot to mention this. I feel like I need to do something quickly. Since I don't see him normally, I could be forgotten quickly. I'm wondering if I should just get up the courage to add him on Facebook and then ask him out in a private message...the worst he could do is say no...but I'm still really scared to do that...even if it would cut through a lot of unnecessary stuff. By the way, if I go with that I'll need some help with the perfect message...

[thatundergrad]

I think Facebook is the best route here. Adding someone doesn't necessarily give it away that you like them, so don't worry about it coming off as that. Think of it this way- you enjoyed working with him, and you want to be his friend. You had a good time in class together, so why not get to know each other. A lot of people add people they don't know well on Facebook, so it won't be awkward. Heck, I add fellow college students who I had one class with and kind of talked to, so it's a common practice.

If he doesn't accept, then that's that and you can move on. It doesn't have to awkward because you didn't put your heart out there, and you'll know he's not interested. If he does, then it's an opportunity to get to know him and become friends, and perhaps something more. But, if you two do become FB friends, I suggest taking it slow. Don't put your heart out there right away, but get to know him. Post on some of the things he said, etc. etc. Build up a friendship.

Don't be afraid, girl. If it doesn't work out, then it wasn't meant to- no regrets. Be confident!!

[VampirePrincess]

Thanks for the reply, Jessica The problem is, I actually don't know anyone who can build up a friendship purely on Facebook. Perhaps it's because I can't use it like normal. I don't post my own statuses or even really do anything on Facebook because my parents stalk me on there, and the more I use it the more uncomfortable my life at home becomes.

On the other note, I was about to reply with "who doesn't accept people's friend requests when you at least recognize them" when I remembered I once added a friend from my hometown and he responded with "I'm sorry, being Facebook friends with you would be awkward."

Maybe I'll just ask him if he wants to see a movie or something...as friends That...might not be too weird. It could be like a delayed celebration of finishing the project...

[Harmony♥]

I don't want to give you anything that you might not want to hear, but I'm here to pass on the truth. Personally, the guy seems like a jerk. Outside of class, he doesn't even acknowledge that he knows you, let alone that he wants to speak to you. Inside class, he sounds like a great guy. Maybe he was only being nice to make sure you did well on your final project? I've known way too many guys get close to a girl for this very reason and then not speak to them at all after wards.

By all means, go for the movie idea. He may accept the request, he may not. If he doesn't, don't worry about it too much.

[VampirePrincess]

Thank you, Shannon. I think I needed to hear that...it could be a possibility, especially since he left me with our project in my locker, and to turn the powerpoint in. Don't misunderstand me, he did 99% of the work on it all since the subject confuses me...but if I didn't turn it in, or even leaving me to turn it in my myself, I could have easily hurt his grade.

But you reminded me of my standards - I've never been asked out by a guy before in my entire life, I'm always doing the asking. I'm not dating anyone again until they ask me out, which to me would prove that they really think I'm worth it. And he has no intention of asking me out. Hours spent pouring over his profiles and his poorly hidden online trails reveal that he might have just been acting like that because I'm his type, and that he seems to want a relationship yet he's still carrying baggage and feelings from his relationship that ended over a year ago, which would make any relationship between us not work, at least right now.

I highly doubt true love is in the air, so I just need to get this crush out of my system and then I'm good to go. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to waste my time on relationships that don't go anywhere...because they'll take me past the point in my life where I can meet people.

[Lost510]

I read this and immediately thought of Twilight... :3