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Someone who you don't love back... - May 11th 2011, 03:33 AM

Ok this could turn out long but I want the facts out so here goes.

I've been with my GF for 5 months its been your typical relationship, ups and downs, Im 20, shes 17 and at times the age gap has been a struggle to say the least... But when I first met her I was really into her, and I mean really, she broke up with a guy she'd been with for 2 weeks with for me, and we got together a month or so later.

It was all good for about a month but she did and still does like to be together ALL the time, I do have to fight for my own time alone, until recently (4 weeks ago) where shes started giving me more space, which I told her I needed.

After a month I started to get a bit walked all over, I just took it all lying down loved her and didn't care. 3 months in and she started talking to a guy, I got jealous and wrote her off for good, we had a chat about our future and she assured me he was nothing to worry about and so we carried on as normal.

Since then its never been the same, thing is is now she is my perfect girlfriend, but I just don't love her back

She dotes all over me, well we share the monetary load buying each other stuff, shes into gaming, motorbikes all huge parts of my life. We also have a fair bit of sex and we're very compatible on that level. I think shes beautiful, and she is my perfect girlfriend I can't stress that enough, hell, shes even ok with me joining the army shes kept up this image of the perfect girl for a month or so its not just a phase, sure we have our moments but yeah.

When I asked for space 4 weeks ago I was going to break up with her, I had accepted it in my head and we were sat there in silence, and I was starting off the breakup conversation with I need more space in my life... In short, she knew what was coming and reluctantly replied fine, ok... Aslong as I dont loose you permanently.

Shes always on my facebook writing I love you etc. on my wall, and 2 weeks ago we were lying on my bed we were just talking and she broke down i tears telling me how much I meant to her, and how she felt i was her only true friend, always there for her etc.

It was then I really realised how much she was into me and how little I was into her in comparison. Its not that I dont like her, I do I really do, but its just not enough I dont think for her, and at times I do just want to be single and alone, and yet give up her?


To add to the confusion in a months time her dad has bought us a hotel room together (me and her lol) for his wedding, if I was going to break up with her now I'd feel bad a hotel room like that going to waste, but at the same time if I wait and break up with her after thats gonna look bad too!

Do I break up with her? If so how, please help, its driving me mental!

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Re: Someone who you don't love back... - May 11th 2011, 05:04 AM

First off, I would NOT let the hotel aspect be the determining factor in deciding to end this or not. Think long and hard about if you want to do this - if you break up with her and change your mind, you may not get her back. However, if you do not feel like you love her enough or you think she deserves to be loved more by someone else, then it might only be fair to her to end things and let her go. It will probably tear her up but it's not fair to lead her along and let her keep thinking/hoping that this love is a mutual thing when it is not. Good luck!
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Re: Someone who you don't love back... - May 13th 2011, 05:09 AM

Be gentle, but don't string her along. Maybe just let her know that you are trying to make this decision and take a trip, another break. Be away from her completely, and see how it feels. But like I said, don't string her along.
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