Need Advice On This Girl Situation

[(JORDAN)]

Hi everyone, I came here because I don't know where else to ask. I'm thinking about this situation to the point where I give myself headaches.
Anyway, there's this girl who I met in the beginning of the school year. I got to know her brother first, and started hanging out with him at lunch. This girl happens to be his sister, and hangs out with him at lunch as well. I got to know her little by little over the school year, and realized how amazing she is. I started to actually talk to her more often and hang out with her outside of school starting about 3 months ago, and I've grown to really like her. I just need to know how I can get her to feel the same way about me. When I first started talking to her, I brought up the idea of us possibly dating, but she said she just wanted to be friends. I can see why she said this, because alot of my friends that sit with us at lunch flirt with her, and she pushes them aside. However, I'm the only one to actually make an effort to get to know her and spend time with her regularly. We get along great and have many common interests, and are both musicians. I really like her, and just hope if I continue to spend time with her and prove I'm not just some dude trying to be a player, she'll change her mind. What should I do?

[Jaguar]

Ask her to do something with you that doesn't mean you're necessarily dating, like going to a concert with a group of friends or hanging at the mall sometime. That would give you both a chance to get to know each other outside the school situation. Best if it's related to something she's interested in, maybe the instrument she plays or music she likes. Don't make it something, like buying her something, that would make her feel obligated. If she does something like go on about a really cool CD or something you can say something like 'I'd like to buy you that' and see what her reaction is. If you get the brush off, back off, but don't go away. If she accepts, build the friendship from there. Act like you like her, but don't be smothering. Give her space where she needs it but let her know you like her. It's hard not to like someone who likes you (but isn't desperate). Ask lots of questions that don't involve a yes or no answer: What do you think about that? is a good one.

Been there, done that. Good luck!

P.S. Musicians are usually a little shy, so don't take a lack of response as a negative. She may just not know how to react. If she is shy, shyness is a good conversation starter. Anything you may have in common.

[Aletheia*]

Hey Jordan,

Although you are making an effort compared to the other guys at your table, she doesn't seem interested in dating you. Sorry for being blunt about it, but she said it herself; she'd much rather be friends. You can't force her into liking you, you just have to be patient and wait to see if her feelings change for you. If they do, great. If they don't, you'll just have to move on. There isn't much you can do. Just continue to be yourself.

Good luck and take care <3