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Help! I am overly jealous. - May 31st 2011, 11:51 PM

So... I always feel like they have a much stronger connection then he and I have. He does everything he can to make me happy. But him an his ex who is his bestfriend always rely on eachother and are all bubbly, it really really bothers me. I know he doesnt even hang out with her and they are always arguing and they are very off and on. I relize that he is deciding to date me. But it bothers me a lot! If I mention it to him he ends up not talking to her as much to make me happy. But I hate that! I feel so bad. I think all this closeness is something I may just imagin. I'd like to learn to deal with the issue with out it effecting our relationship or his with her. It just the feelings are SO strong. They kill me and I can deal with it for awhile but then they just burst and I end up really sad and depressed and that does not make things too good. Advice please.


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Re: Help! I am overly jealous. - June 1st 2011, 12:38 AM

If you feel they have a stronger connection, then work on your connection! That's probably going to take time, but the longer you two are together and the more loving you are, the stronger that bond will grow, and eventually, you won't feel envious of their relationship anymore.

Also, keep in mind that men (and women!) can have close bonds with multiple people. Just because we choose to date one person doesn't mean our heart becomes entirely devoted to that one person. He is still capable of loving you AND having strong feelings for other people, just as YOU are capable of loving him AND having strong feelings for male friends, ex-boyfriends, male relatives, etc. It's nothing to get jealous over - it's just indicative of how much love you have to give. =)





   
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Re: Help! I am overly jealous. - June 1st 2011, 12:46 AM

That is a really really good reply. thankyou, that helps a lot.


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