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Ahh, f***. I think its over. - July 6th 2011, 04:16 PM

We have been dating for a year now. One problem for me that has been there since the begining of the relationship is girls. he held hands with a girl and cuddled her... once I FINALY found out he was doing this, I asked him to stop and he did. Then there was his ex girlfriend who still liked him and was constantly trying to make things work with him who he talked to all the time and he was always so happy with her and whatnot. When I told him I couldnt deal with the stress of it and couldnt be in the relationship with him anymore, he desided to change his relationship with her and not hang out with her alone anymore. Then there was a happy gap period where there were no problems.

Then that period ended when he started to make friends with a girl in health class. He told me he really liked her and wanted to be friends with her really badly, that she was really smart and whatnot. Then it kind of turn into flirting, then he told me he didnt want to tell her he was in a relationship with me because he knew she was the type of girl who only wanted to be in a relationship so if he told her that she would stop talking to him. But then one day it was really obvious to him that she really wanted to begin dating him, so then he told her about me and low and behold, she stoped talking to him. The whole not telling her about me really bothered me. Then there was another girl who he wouldnt say no to. She hugged sexually and held his hand and tried kissing him. He was leading her on. She was under the impression that he liked her, and not me. So then he had a really long period with her of not saying no to her and letting her do all these things with him. And I've kept telling him, no you have to stop.... but it always happens again. Like now, I'm pretty sure theres a new one with his co-worker. By the way he decribes her actions it sounds as if she does not really know about me.

Plus he blames all his down falls on me and our relationship. He chose to spend all his time with me. It is not my fault he felt trapped and like he couldnt have time with friends. He shouldnt hate me for that like he does, only himself. As soon as he told me how he was feeling, like he needed to hang out with his other friends and not just me I was okay with it! And the only reason that I'm somewhat tight lipped about him hanging out with certain friends is because he is an ex drug addict! Those friends do drugs! Duh! No freaking wonder I'm not going to like it, hang out with your clean friends you potato head! I'm just so p**sed off. I really dont feel I or the relationship should be getting the blame for this. I think he should.

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Re: Ahh, f***. I think its over. - July 6th 2011, 04:44 PM

A relationship takes two people, and it seems to me your relationship was the two of you and then a bunch of girls. It's a good thing it's over. You couldn't deal with the stress of all these girls before, and I'm not sure how you could all this time. You need to end the relationship. He is blaming you for things that you didn't do, or aren't your fault. He is openly flirting with these others girl, making them believe that he likes them and they do all these sexual things to him (not sex or anything in that regards per se, but you get my point). These things don't happen in a healthy and strong relationship, they just don't. Your boyfriend has a problem with thinking with his penis, not his mind. Not all guys are like this, so there are good guys out there. You just happened to find the wrong one, and it needs to end.

Good luck.

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