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I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 21st 2011, 06:46 AM

Could someone please tell me what to do? I've felt this way since i was 14. I'm 19 now and I still really like her. She's really hot and has a great body too. I'm torn because I'm good friends with him, but I really like his mom. I know it sounds weird and creepy, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.
   
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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 21st 2011, 07:47 AM

It could just be a crush. If it doesn't turn into anything, I think you're fine. Everyone develops crushes on older people once in a while. For me, it was my trigonometry teacher last year. Have you liked girls your own age? If so, just date them & when you find a girl you love, your crush won't be a problem. Other than that, I really don't know what to tell you, but good luck!
   
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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 21st 2011, 09:45 AM

I wouldn't recommend going after her, no matter how much you like her. For one, it could possibly ruin your relationship with your friend, and you could maybe get yourself in trouble with her husband, if she has one (being 19 and kissing an adult won't be taken the same as being 14 and being all touchy).

I'm sure you've liked girls your age. Why not try and go after one of them? Is your love for your friend's mom so big, that you can't try and focus on others?


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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 21st 2011, 11:29 AM

Well I would Possible Just Like Talk to her but dont be like hey Sexy Mama I Like you. Just Be yourself and who knows Kissing her could be something she likes. Your Friend,Yeah They are going to be mad but what they dont know can't hurt them.


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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 21st 2011, 04:12 PM

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Well I would Possible Just Like Talk to her but dont be like hey Sexy Mama I Like you. Just Be yourself and who knows Kissing her could be something she likes. Your Friend,Yeah They are going to be mad but what they dont know can't hurt them.
Yes, because it's a great idea for a parent to keep the fact she's kissing her son's friend a secret and vice versa. o.o

Personally, OP, I think you need to work on moving on and meeting other people. Even if she is single, I can see where something like this could pose a lot of complications, and not just between you and your friend but between your friend and his mother, too. And though you may say it's not your business/problem and/or that you don't care about how it would effect their relationship, it's something to think about.

To me it seems like there's a lot of drama involved in this for someone you seem only to be lusting after (a MILF perhaps? ). Even just admitting that you like her could pose serious problems, more if she's still married. So I would work on distancing yourself and meeting other people. If you feel you could benefit from separation from her, simply don't talk/hang out with her as much while you're over at your friend's house. Keep a polite distance. I don't think you want to get involved in this one.


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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 21st 2011, 04:26 PM

Thanks for all the replies. I know I'm not going to tell her I was just wondering how to get over it. She is married and I wouldn't want to do that to my friend. I don't really have a gf (she wants more of a fwb thing), and I've always liked girls my own age too. My friend says that it's a loveless marriage where they sleep in different beds and yell at each other all the time. I want to be there for her because I like her but I don't want to be a home-wrecker and cause pain to this family. I'm just torn I guess.

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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 22nd 2011, 05:13 PM

Hello, and welcome to TeenHelp! =)

You're certainly in a unique situation. While it IS possible for an "outsider" to serve multiple roles when interacting with another family, I don't think that trying to be the best friend AND the lover, in this particular situation, is possible. I've heard of older men/women serving as mentors for children, only to end up falling in love with the children's dad/mom later on and eventually become the mentor, husband/wife, and stepdad/stepmom.

That's different from what you're facing, though, and frankly, I don't think it would be appropriate for you to step in and take on multiple roles. You're the best friend, and you have been for years. Let someone else take on the role of lover... or better yet, let someone show your friend's mom she deserves better. That could be anyone from a relative of the family to a marriage counselor. I guess my point is that there's no reason to believe you are the ONLY one who can help your friend's mom. She has her child/your friend, and I'm sure she has friends who are around her age that can support her as well.


   
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Re: I have a massive crush on my friend's mom - July 22nd 2011, 05:42 PM

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Yes, because it's a great idea for a parent to keep the fact she's kissing her son's friend a secret and vice versa. o.o

Personally, OP, I think you need to work on moving on and meeting other people. Even if she is single, I can see where something like this could pose a lot of complications, and not just between you and your friend but between your friend and his mother, too. And though you may say it's not your business/problem and/or that you don't care about how it would effect their relationship, it's something to think about.

To me it seems like there's a lot of drama involved in this for someone you seem only to be lusting after (a MILF perhaps? ). Even just admitting that you like her could pose serious problems, more if she's still married. So I would work on distancing yourself and meeting other people. If you feel you could benefit from separation from her, simply don't talk/hang out with her as much while you're over at your friend's house. Keep a polite distance. I don't think you want to get involved in this one.


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Anyway, like the others have said, it is only a crush. There's nothing going to come of it, and you're wasting your time to be frank.

Try and stay away from her if she's that alluring, or try and get a serious girlfriend your own age.

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