Is Vengful cheating bad?

[Ivanna_B_Me]

Ok ive been in this relationship for 5.5 years and... well hes not faithful.... he hasnt actully cheated for a year... but he keeps doing the flirting things that ends with him cheating... well he keeps going on to fb at work and asking for girls number and well lets say all of the girls have a reputation... and ive been able to stop it... but he just keeps on doing it... he keeps saying hes going to delete his fb... and then i end up feeling bad... but now im at this point... pardon my language i want to just go f&%$ a guy and just rub it in his face.... I know its bad but my mind says so.... but my heart is saying do it or hell keep hurting you... make him feel how u feel...

[Justin Bieber]

Are you still with him? Do you want to be in a relationship where he is okay cheating? If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time trying to fix him or make him commit to me, I'd just leave him and find someone who DOES love me and wants to commit. No need to get revenge.

[semiunbalanced]

I would say that despite the length of time you two have been together... it is time to say goodbye. It sounds as if he kind of wants to move along and now you want to move along. You need to find somebody who can commit to you instead of (as the above poster said) trying to make him commit to you. Good luck!

[Maloo]

Any kind of cheating is an absolutely horrible thing to do. He treats you like shit, dump him.

[TheBabyEater]

I don't understand why you've spent all this time with a guy that is obviously not being faithful to you, or is trying very hard to make you feel important and special to him.

I do understand however that you probably love him quite a bit. But if you're really wanting to have sex with another man just to get even, you need to ask yourself something. Is this really the kind of relationship you want to be in? Forever? You guys have had enough time to work things out and experiment with each other, it seems like things really aren't working out and while it's up to you, I suggest trying your hardest to move on and find a guy that actually respects you.

[Revolution]

I wouldn't waste my time with cheating and just break up with him. You can obviously do better. I wouldn't sink to his level. But I wouldn't think lower of somebody who did because I can understand your frustration.

[dredear]

No, Don't cheat. Thats never the option. Just break up with him.

[Aletheia*]

Any sort of cheating is bad. Vengeful cheating is much worse. Your stooping down to his level, and that's not right. You need to consider breaking up with him if he continues cheating on you; I would have left a long time ago if the situation were reversed.

[Madeleine.Claire]

Any cheating is bad, but vengeful cheating is just..no.

He sounds like someone that you shouldn't want to be in a relationship with anyways, if he continues doing things like that without caring especially. Just break up with him because cheating on him can and will only make the relationship even more unhealthy than it already is.

[PlayingPretend]

I agree with what everyone else has said.

Cheating, irregardless of reason, is wrong, but the fact you've gotten to the point you want to cheat for the hell of it, simply to give you something to rub in his face... That there, on top of everything else, is a sign that the relationship is well past it's expirey date. I also feel I remember this guy from past threads of yours (I believe I remember your user pic and name), and I have to say... He's never been worth it.

[PSY]

I agree with everyone else.

If you're unhappy with the relationship, be the better person and leave your cheating partner. Getting revenge by cheating on him just makes you as bad as he is.

[Aurelia]

What a load of rubbish, just dump his ass. Have some self respect, he's clearly not respecting you and he's not worth it.

[Cosmo]

I think you know the answer. At least, if you have a moral compass, I hope so.

[ChaosControl]

It must sound cliche, but two wrongs don't make a right. How would cheating make anything better for either of you? You'd be better off ending it and moving on, because stooping to his level doesn't make things right. Revenge won't fix the relationship and could earn you a bad reputation when you're with someone else.