Girlfriend Troubles :/

[OneInAMillion]

Well, we got together on the 4th of this month, she is my mums best mates daughter, and well im 17, and i want a long lasting relationship, i know im young, but i want to settle down, and get married, i want to enjoy life with a girl, but the reason im havign troubles is because, well i dotn think i can trust her, i knew her facebook password, and as soon as i said i new it as i dont like to be dishonest, she changed it imediatly, and she is always nicking my phone, and i dont really midn because i have nothing to hide, but as soon as i even touch her phone, she's so quick to grab it, so i got suspicious, then i went downstairs, and i said i tihnk you have something to hide cz you wont give me your phone, obviosuly i wernt bothered at looking at it or anything, i just wondered why she wouldnt let me have it when she always has mine, but then something happened, i saw her delete some messages, then 5 mins later, she said fine you can have it!, obviosuly in a pissed of look :/, so i dont know whats going on, im a guy, and i know we dont show emotions that much, but seriosuly starting to get me down, i mean, i dont like to moan ay her, or argue and that, but atm im not talking to her, as i said i didnt wanan see her today as im knackered from football, and like she was out of order, so i ignored her, and she said im sorry alot of times, i love you etcc. but tbh sorry is just a word and when said too many times, it means nothing, same with i love you, it should only be said when you really mean it, i know i sound proberly really pathetic, but all i want is an amazing relationship, where we can just spend eternity together, i guess thats too much to ask, i know relationships have problems, i just want to know if she's the right girl for me :/

the thing is, the people she hangs round with dont do her any good, and i hate them, there not the croud id hang round with but thats not a problem atm, however i dotn really know her reputation, she is really sweet and all but i dont know too much about her rep, as when shes around she always seems to be trying to pull a move, i mean im ready to have sex, but im not sure im ready to have it with her, as its only been around 2 weeks, but i think i know she wants to do it, she just drops hints nown again, the thing is she is only 15, and she seems to ready, and i dont want to abuse the fact that she seems so ready, the thing is, im a virgin, and i want my first time to be special, and hopefully with the girl i spend the rest of my life with, i proberly sound like a romantic movie or something but thats what i want!, i just want to be with one girl for the rest of my life, and be happy together its really starting to annoy me as i dont know if thats what my girlfriends wants, and is just after a sexual relationship, not a physical :/

She also tends to text alot when she's round, and its mainly guys, im not the jelous type or anything but if i look she puts her phone in an angle where i cant see if i just look over her shoulder, im not nosey and i know girls like there privacy, but id like to think she would atleast tell me who she's texting or what about, i always tell her etc, i dont want to brake up with her i just wish, i could know whats going on inside her head. i dont want to stand here slagging her off or anything as she is amazing when im with her, really sweet, great personality, its just mainly the trust issue, and that fact i think she may be hiding something :/

[PSY]

Welcome to TeenHelp!

I hope my response doesn't come across as too rude... but after two weeks, there is NO WAY you can know whether or not your partner is "the one". If you are relatively inexperienced with love and relationships, then it may FEEL like she could be "the one"... but the experienced veterans would tell you that those are feelings that result from the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship. Once you have been with her for several weeks or months, you'll start to realize it's not that simple. Love takes time to develop, even if you were friends before you started dating.

I'm seeing plenty of red flags in this situation. At best, slowing things down considerably could salvage this relationship. At worst, you two simply aren't compatible, and the relationship needs to end before someone does something they regret (ex. losing their virginity prematurely).

[OneInAMillion]

Originally Posted by PSY

Welcome to TeenHelp!

I hope my response doesn't come across as too rude... but after two weeks, there is NO WAY you can know whether or not your partner is "the one". If you are relatively inexperienced with love and relationships, then it may FEEL like she could be "the one"... but the experienced veterans would tell you that those are feelings that result from the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship. Once you have been with her for several weeks or months, you'll start to realize it's not that simple. Love takes time to develop, even if you were friends before you started dating.

I'm seeing plenty of red flags in this situation. At best, slowing things down considerably could salvage this relationship. At worst, you two simply aren't compatible, and the relationship needs to end before someone does something they regret (ex. losing their virginity prematurely).

Thanks

and no you dont come across rude at all, actually what you said is very helpful, i know what your saying, and i think i need to stop worrying so much, and just take it as it is, as she is really great, we both like alot of things, and i think your advice is true, i think maybe it needs to slow down a little bit, theres too much happening too fast.

thanks very much for the reply and the advice, it has helped me see it differently