Girl problems. :(

[dinoscool3]

Ok, so I like my "step" cousin (long story, our grandparents remarried to each other), I've figured all that stuff out, but I've got more problems that annoy me.

She says she wants to talk to me (via text), but she leaves randomly. I kno she's busy, but she never really gives a reason, and she leaves at bad times. Like a week ago, I was scared cause a friend was missing(was found later), but she's just like "g2g, swimming tomorrow, bye". I just sat in my bed, stunned. I'm about to cry and she leaves?


And to add salt to pain, I also still have feelings for a girl who I was friends with, but she left me one day. Just packed up and left. Haven't really texted her since. I just really really want her back, but the one time I did talk with her, she said she had no regrets of "burning bridges". That really hurt when she said that.


I just want advice, a comforting hug, I don't know. I'll take whatever you give me

[Aletheia*]

Many people don't know how to give advice or be there for someone whose being emotion or who is going through a hard time. Your 'step cousin' might have this problem. It's normal, and you shouldn't hold it against her. Of course, you also said she's busy, which also should be understood.

[Serene]

You can't exactly confide in girls, they aren't your mother. Especially not with someone you like. Insecurity is a turn off.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by Serene

You can't exactly confide in girls, they aren't your mother. Especially not with someone you like. Insecurity is a turn off.

I don't think there's anything wrong with confiding in girls per se, but Serene is right in that using a girl you like for emotional support is bad strategy. They'll either feel sympathy or disgust, both of which make them less attracted to you.

Anyway, advice time. Keep talking to your step-cousin, but if you want a relationship with her, keep it light and flirty instead of telling her all about your missing friends and stuff. And talk to other girls too: the reason that you're still obsessed with bridge-burning girl is that you let yourself think she was special. She wasn't. By keeping a few girls in rotation, you get less invested in any one of them. And finally, if you want a girl for emotional support, do what I did and make friends with a lesbian.