Her male friend is coming to hang out at her place...

[Snake123]

Is it just me, or am I getting played here?

I mean, the fact he rings her every day, got me slightly worried, but I am cool with it, the fact that he admitted he liked her, again tried to play it very cool. I didn't want to come across as controlling or anything and I can't tell her who she can and cannot talk to, even if it makes me insecure... And if I tell her that then its putting pressure on her and stuff....

But he's now going round hers for labour day, she only told me after he asked, and they are going to be alone and... Should I be worried?

If I shouldn't I will just shutup and deal with it, if it isn't cool, what should I do?

[Aletheia*]

Has she given you any reason to worry? If so, then I would talk to her about it. Explain your feelings and that you aren't comfortable with it. If not, let it be. She is only hanging out with a friend, and you can't keep her from doing so. It doesn't set a good precedent for the future of your relationship. If you try, she's likely to resent you and your relationship could fall to pieces.

But, your feelings should matter to her. Tell her how you feel about it, and ask if you can come to her house for labor day (if it's possible to do so). Have her invite some of her female and male friends, and ask if you can invite some of your female and male friends.

[Choose]

In my experience, these types of scenarios usually don't play out well. If you tell her that you don't feel comfortable with the situation and she completely disregards your opinion on the matter, you're in for a ride. It's ultimately up to her what happens between the two of them, but yeah it sounds sketchy to me.

[Acheron]

He's admitted he likes her, he rings her every day, and they've been friends for (presumably) a while without getting together. What we have here, ladies and gentlemen, is an orbiter. You know, the nice guy who'll hang around the object of his desire, give her a shoulder to cry on, and wait for the day when she breaks up with her asshole boyfriend (that's you, dude) and realises just how wet sensitive and respectful guys get her. She thinks he's sweet and tells him that any girl would be lucky to have him, but has zero interest in him herself. I understand why you don't like him hanging around your girl, but he's as much of a threat to her fidelity as a gay guy. Or a pet.

Also, since when did we have Labour Day in the UK?

[dancefever18]

You shouldn't deal with it. Sit down and talk to her about it face-to-face. Not over text or Facebook. Tell her how you feel and take it from there because she shoudln't be playing you like that!

[Composure]

Originally Posted by Acheron

He's admitted he likes her, he rings her every day, and they've been friends for (presumably) a while without getting together. What we have here, ladies and gentlemen, is an orbiter. You know, the nice guy who'll hang around the object of his desire, give her a shoulder to cry on, and wait for the day when she breaks up with her asshole boyfriend (that's you, dude) and realises just how wet sensitive and respectful guys get her. She thinks he's sweet and tells him that any girl would be lucky to have him, but has zero interest in him herself. I understand why you don't like him hanging around your girl, but he's as much of a threat to her fidelity as a gay guy. Or a pet.

Also, since when did we have Labour Day in the UK?

Acheron, you always seem to entertain me.

But alas, I don't believe Acheron is correct. This guy might not just be a simplistic "nice guy," as Acheron so describes. I believe he might not simply be an "orbiter," but something a bit more of a wedge. What are the odds that you agree to this, and something eventuates from it? What are the odds that, if you were to stick up for yourself and fight for your woman, something doesn't eventuate between the two of them? I'm not sure you can simply stick a wedge between their friendship, but the least you could do is express your opinion on the matter. If you don't like it, don't put up with it - you're only going to get yourself deeper in shit. What happens if this guy thinks 'well, her boyfriend doesn't seem to mind me encroaching on his territory... I'll just move in'?

[Ambiance]

Originally Posted by Acheron

He's admitted he likes her, he rings her every day, and they've been friends for (presumably) a while without getting together. What we have here, ladies and gentlemen, is an orbiter. You know, the nice guy who'll hang around the object of his desire, give her a shoulder to cry on, and wait for the day when she breaks up with her asshole boyfriend (that's you, dude) and realises just how wet sensitive and respectful guys get her. She thinks he's sweet and tells him that any girl would be lucky to have him, but has zero interest in him herself. I understand why you don't like him hanging around your girl, but he's as much of a threat to her fidelity as a gay guy. Or a pet.

Also, since when did we have Labour Day in the UK?

I agree that he's an orbiter. I don't agree that he poses zero threat. He's going to hang around until you guys get in a fight or something, and if she's the type to cheat, she could very well be "comforted" by him, though probably for a total of one night, depending on how attractive he is or isn't. If she's the type that would never ever cheat, you don't really need to be worried in the first place. Although, it's weird; we could all tell you that it's definately weird. However, if she's telling you all these things that have made you worried, then it's nothing weird. If anything wrong was going on, she definately would keep these details to herself.