Is this cheating?

[Le bonheur*]

If a guy gets a picture from a girl - she's half naked; wearing just underwear and a bra - and he LOCKS it on his phone. Then when his girlfriend finds it in his phone, she asks him and he says "I don't even remember where that came from" or "I don't know why it's still there". Then five minutes later he says "I kept it on there as a joke".. like all of a sudden he remembers ; Then the girlfriend asks if he's been spending time with this "picture girl" behind her back. And he says "Yeah, she's came over.. But I just didn't tell you cuz I didn't wanna get you mad".

This probably isn't making much sense. But if it does, I really need to know if this is cheating or not. Even if no one replies to this, someone PM me and help.. Please. :/

[PMckay]

Hi sweedie, I went through this at some point before... My boyfriend then had a picture of a half naked girl on his phone and when i confrunted him about it he was clueless and just said that it was a picture him and his friends where passing about..

I wouldnt get too worried but I wouldnt just leave it because when you say the girl has come over then i dont understand why you dont know about this if you are his girlfriend? Maybe you need to speak to him about it.. dont argue with him just discuss it and ask him if there is anything else you need to know..

Hope everything works out xx

[Ancora Imparo]

Hey Brittany,

I'm so sorry to hear about the situation that you have found yourself in at the moment, it must be really difficult for you and I'm sure you're not quite sure as to what you should think and feel right now. I think this is a situation that everybody is going to have their own opinion as to what is really going on but I'll give you my opinion but I'm sure what I think will be totally different compared to what somebody else may think. However, either way I hope that you're able to take some comfort out of some of the words that you may receive from some of the other members.

In my opinion, he's guilty of something because he can't seem to stick to a single story, he keeps changing his story to one that he seems to think that will get him out of the hole that he has managed to dig for himself. It seems as if he has hit a stage of panic and is saying absolutely anything that will make the situation go away and to make you drop what has happened.

I can totally understand why you're angry and upset. I think the majority of people in your situation would be too. I believe that a relationship is all about trust, communication and being faithful. If you can't trust him, if he can't tell you the truth and if he can't be faithful to you then this lad obviously isn't the person that you should be with because you really do deserve so much better than that.

Dating people and being in a relationship with another person is all about having a good time, being in the company of somebody that you enjoy spending your time with and ultimately finding that one special person that you will predominantly end up spending the rest of your life with. Regardless of how much you may like somebody, being in a relationship that makes you unhappy or when you're worrying about what the other person is doing or who they're with is just pointless.

I think you need to sit your boyfriend down and explain to him that you need to know the truth because if he can't give you the truth then your relationship isn't going to survive. Once you find out the truth then it is really down to you whether you believe that you can repair the relationship that you have and if you believe that it's worth fighting for.

I hope that I have been able to help you in one way or another and if you would like to talk further about anything then feel free to PM or VM me at any time as I'm always more than happy to talk about everything and anything.

Take care and keep your chin up!

[Aletheia*]

Normally, I would have said no. It's just a picture, and that girl AND your boyfriend could get in trouble for having it if they're both under the age of 18. So, it would be his idiot fault.

However, it does sound like he's hiding something and you need to get to the bottom of things. He lied about having the picture in the first place, and lied to you about why it was still in his phone. Talk to him about this. Tell him if he doesn't tell you the truth, the WHOLE truth, you just might have to reconsider your relationship with him.

[flippinmayonnaise]

I would consider that cheating. There's no need for that behavior, or for him to have that picture. It sounds to me like you deserve better

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I think it depends. I've found porn on my boyfriend's phone, but I didn't really care because well, it's porn. But if someone was sending him pictures, then I'd have a problem. I guess you could follow the same standards.

[Ellie]

I'd have to know more, especially about the 'she's been over but I didn't tell you because I didn't want you to get mad'. Because THAT would get me mad. It's the fact that he wouldn't have told me until I asked, oh yes, AND he has a picture of her half naked. Where did that come from? Is it from when she was round? Did someone else send it him? Just a couple of questions I'd be asking.

Yes, it could be innocent so it may not be cheating but if I was in that situation I wouldn't be happy until I'd spoken to him properly and fully about exactly what is happening and who this girl is.

[inFAMOUS]

I wouldnt exactly say cheating, but VERY inappropriate.

[dancefever18]

It sounds like cheating. This girlfriend should tell the guy "If you want to spend time with her, then you won't have me anymore" because its very unfaithful to her. And she shouldn't be with someone like that.

[PlayingPretend]

I'm not sure I'd classify it as cheating, but I would classify it as inappropriate. Porn, a-okay, but having personal pictures of someone he's personally involved/friends with? I'd have an issue with it. And I'd have an issue with him telling me he had her round but didn't want to tell me about it because I'd "get mad." Not sure if it'd be his dishonesty that bothered me more, or the fact that he was hiding that he had some girl around his place whom he also had a photo of on his phone. Quite frankly, I would be asking the same questions Ellie mentioned, but I also wouldn't be keeping him around long enough to ask. That, to me, is intolerable behaviour.

[Madeleine.Claire]

I would be upset especially if it's a girl that he knows and is sending him pictures like that. I would be really upset if I ever found something like that on my boyfriend's phone at least.

It definitely could just be that he wanted something to look at and he asked. My cousin's boyfriend did this a little while ago, she was going through his phone and found a couple of pictures, he hadn't done anything with the girls that they were from, but he did know them.

Guys are.. Well.. They're guys.
If it were me, I would talk to him about it and would most likely not want him to continue talking to whoever they were from..