Afraid of relationships

[Floriferous]

Alright, so this is going to seem really odd, but I have a reason for it. I'm afraid to have relationships at the moment. The reason being that last year I did have a boyfriend, but he made me more stressed out and unhappy than less stressed and happy.

The thing is, the second day we were dating he started pestering me about kissing him. He did this at least once a week. I know it's no big deal; it's just a kiss, right? But I just wasn't ready yet. It got to the point where I hated getting texts and just kept my phone off all the time. I mean, it might be okay if he texted me about other things too, but that was all he ever sent and it got irritating. We dated for two months before I finally had enough of it and broke up with him. (Yes, I'm very patient... I guess.) He would've been great if it wasn't for that. And then I was the b*tch since I broke up with him. >.>

Now there's someone interested in me who I'm going to Homecoming with. (I know he's interested because I got it from a reliable source.) He's a senior and a really sweet guy, but I just don't know if I even want to date now. I'm probably just really afraid that that sort of thing will happen to me again. I don't want to lead him on, yet I'm also afraid of missing an opportunity to find a really sweet guy who does make me happy.

I don't even know what I should do right now. He'll probably want to talk about it on Saturday, so that gives me a bit of time to think about it, but not much. How can I decide what to do about this situation?

[facade]

My advice to you is to give this guy a chance. At least go to homecoming with him. See how homecoming goes, and go from there. If you decide to be in a relationship with him, I suggest that you talk to him. Tell him about your fears and your past recent relationship(s). Trust him.

If he's as sweet as you say he is, I'm sure he'll be understandable and will be a great guy that can make you happy. <3

Hope I helped.
& I wish you best of luck in this situation.
<3

[Nicole!]

Well if you don't feel ready or comfortable, then I wouldn't do it.
But I would go to Homecoming with him and see how that goes, and then if you feel ready then give him a chance. It's normal to be afraid of something like that, but you do need to remember that not every guy is going to treat you that way.

[Aletheia*]

I agree with the ^above poster.

If you aren't ready and don't feel comfortable with the idea of dating right now, then don't do it. If this guy can't handle that, he's totally not worth it. You did the right thing with your ex by breaking up with him. He was pressuring you (also pestering) into doing something you weren't ready for. I can understand that frustration. Do things at your own pace.