Breakups

[Timy]

I am a very sensitive, emotional guy. My Ex and I had been dating for 14 months or so, we had been friends a few years before that, when she broke up with me. I had seen it coming a bit, she stopped talking to me all the time, things like that.

I need some advice on how to emotionally remove myself from her, we have the same friends and attend the same school, when I am around her I feel as though my heart is being ripped from my chest. Sometimes I tell myself that I hate her, other times I would do anything to be with her.

I know this takes time, but if anyone can offer any advice that might make things easier it would be greatly appreciated.

[Aletheia*]

It's best to remove her from your life completely. Remove her from any internet connections you might have like Facebook, Twitter or anything else of that nature. Delete her phone number from your phone, so you aren't urged to contact her and if she tries to contact you, you don't know who it is. Put pictures, letters, anniversary gifts; anything you might have of that nature, and put them away in a safe place where you can have them when you've sufficiently moved on. Avoid her in the hallways at school, avoid eye contact. If she's there when your friends hang out, try to make plans for the next night that doesn't include her. Your friends should be understanding that right now is a difficult time for you, and if they don't, sit down and tell him that you don't want to talk to her right now.