Feeding the Relationship to Make it Bloom

[Anala]

So, I have been dating this guy for about... wow... seven months almost. It's the longest I've been in for quite some time and we have our hopes and dreams.
Since I've been dealing with a lot of suicide and SHing and stuff like that, I've kind of extracted myself from normal conduct. The main topics we talk about is either sex, comfort, or romantic-mushy things. Sometimes there's those inside jokes but...

The main point: What makes up the quirks and perks of a relationship? How do I chat about "normal" things and just shoot the breeze/talk about random things?

-We can't really do anything together, but he is joining my school this coming Tuesday.
-We use to see each other once a week, during orchestra rehearsal, but there's the public. Above is reason why this is increasing.
-Anything's up for grabs. If you have more advice, please say something. My past relationships disintegrated due to lack of variety.

Anala~

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

It really depends on the couple. If sex is something you talk about a lot, then I would consider that a normal conversation for you two. There is no specific "normal" conversation or things to talk about, just as the quirks & perks are really up to you guys. Not every relationship is the same. No relationship is 100% the same.

What I did when my boyfriend & I first started dating was googled questions to ask him or topics to discuss. It helped us get to know each other a lot better & it gave us something to do when we were on a car ride or texting.

[VampirePrincess]

Normal all depends on the people involved. The conversations I have with my boyfriend sound insane to most people. But they don't tell us a lot about each other :/ I think this is a problem a lot of people have.

I try and pick a small topic every day. Even just a question every day. Little things, like "what's your favorite color" and "if you could go anyplace in the world right now, where would it be and why." Barbara had a good suggestion with googling questions. Look up a myspace/facebook survey online and ask him some random questions from that, maybe...those are always interesting.