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[justfallinginlove]

So theres this guy. Let's call him S. And hes really sweet and cute and fantastical (thats a word.. ) And I really like him and he has told me that he likes me. So your probably thinking "Why aren't you all dating then?" Well I thought the same thing. So I asked. haha and he said he just doesn't want a girlfriend right now.

Well his last girlfriend was really a bit of a b**ch to him. She literally refused to do anything with him. And when I say anything I mean she wouldn't even kiss him, like a peck. And I'm all for waiting till your ready for stuff like that but I mean she had been farther with a guy than a peck before and now is hooking up with guys left and right. It basically just really hurt S's feelings and made him think that relationships are crap.

So my question is, how do I work him up to wanting to be in a relationship with me? Not in a manipulative way of course but any advice? Thanks in advanced!
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[Kevmezz]

Well I've been hurt many times by girls and i've always recovered (never forgotten tho) I guess the best thing you can do is tell him how you feel and that you do want a relationship with him. Not all girls are the same and that you would treat him better.

[chickenonsteroids]

Just be open to him and let him know that all girls aren't the same

Remember just because two people like each other doesn't mean they have to be dating. Relationships don't necessarily form you completely. Maybe it's not his prority to be in a relationship

[Le bonheur*]

I agree with the others. Open up to him and explain to him that you're not going to hurt him and you're going to do everything possible to make him happy and so forth. Just be honest about your feelings and see where it ends up. If he really doesn't want a relationship, you have two choices... wait or move on. Either way I wish you luck. :]

[Aletheia*]

As you know, you can't force someone to like you, have feelings for you or want to be with you. But, since this guy likes you, being patient is the best bet. He's not ready for a girlfriend right now. That doesn't mean it's going to be forever. He needs to get over his last relationship because he was hurt severely. Just give him some time, and when he's ready, he'll come around.