Never thought I'd have this kind of problem

[iamverybeautiful]

Long story short: Guys keep hinting they're interested in me but I don't want a relationship (and I will not do "sex-only"). I know what you're thinking, "ohh you have guy interested and you're complaining"? Yeah, because I don't know how to say "I am not interested in anything".

I'm an adventurous person and I can understand why some people would like that. I also get excited about things and I'm really energetic, I always want to try new things. I just don't have time for guys (also, I feel that I'm a bit too selfish for relationships at the moment, meaning that I just want to do whatever I want without having to answer to anyone. I also hate clingy guys, which I feel a lot of them try to attach to me) I also tend to have a lot of older guys (30+) interested in me and that makes me uncomfortable.

I`m only 20 but I`m scared that I`ll end up alone for the rest of my life if I just keep pushing guys away (but like I said, I`m way too busy and I tend to travel). I feel relationships need stability and my life is unstable (in a good way though). I thought that perhaps I`ll do a lot of traveling during my university years and after that my `travel bug` will have declined but what if it doesn`t? My dance teacher is about 15 years older than I am and I feel that she`s the same way. She acts and looks younger than she actually is. She`s not married and she`s independent (like me). She feels the same way, that having a relationship forces her to answer to someone, and like me, I don`t like that. I also feel that I just can`t find someone to like them enough to date them. For example, I have to have someone who`s open-minded. If someone is scared, shy, not interested in trying new things, I lose interest in them because I feel that they`re missing out in life.

Any opinions?

[alibear101]

Hy there. Do not worry about being alone! you are only 20. IT is definitely okay for you to want some alone time. Sometimes your best option is to be alone because it gives you time to think about you want in a guy (or girl) whatever your preference. If having older guys want you is making you uncomfortable that is COMPLETELY normal. Id find it a little weird too. Like theres a 10 year difference, you are in university, and for 30 year olds they have a career and are settled in their life. Its reasonable to want to be independent, I'm sure that you just left 18 years of being told what to do by your parents. You want some freedom, and having a guy is a pain in the ass xD I love travelling, and its always best to do that right when you get out of high school or whatever or university, because after you usually settle down, and you get a career, a husband or wife, and then you start a family if thats what you want. Then you have 20 years or so where your lives are entirely dedicated to those little kids! Travel now! live your life! don't let a guy tie you down, and if the traveling thing never goes away, then find a guy who wants to travel too! there are a lot of them out there, thats for sure. MY final piece of advice is to not give up, you will find a man when you want one and maybe there reason you don't want a man right now is cuz you haven't found one that pleases you Anyway, if you want to talk more PM me! Im always willing to talk and would love to make a couple friends

[Nicole!]

I think it is perfectly find for you to not want a relationship. 20 is still pretty young and you still have plenty of time for relationships. It would be best to wait until you actually want to make a commitment before you start dating, so don't rush yourself and just wait until your ready

[Angel]

Tell them you aren't interested. A good man-repellant is a wedding band.
Some women wear wedding bands while they're traveling alone or out with friends so they avoid being creeped on. It isn't a bad idea, really!

Don't worry about not finding a boy yet unless you'd really like to be in a relationship. Perhaps you'll find a boy that interests you along your journey. When that time comes, keep an open mind. For now I can totally understand why you wouldn't want to pursue a relationship. Don't feel bad for being focused on yourself for the time being!