A boy asked me out but I like 2 other people

NyanNyan · **A boy asked me out but I like 2 other people -** October 6th 2011, 12:00 AM

Exactly as the title would suggest. A boy asked me out today, so we went on a date and I liked him since last year, but I also like a girl who isn't in my school and a boy who likes me back (I think) but might be gay and lives far away. Not sure what to do...all of them I thinknlike me but only one said so. The other boy who thinks he might be gay I have been totally in love with for three years. I want to give him time to decide but I also really feel that I want him to be my first since I like him best. The girl shows lots of signs of being lesbian/bi and attracted to me, but I'm too scared to ask her. Should I keep dating this boy or wait for one of the others with sexuality issues?

Golem

Hello there Nyan Nyan,
I sense your dilemma choosing between people you really like is never easy however my advice would be:
To confront the boy you liked for 3 years and ask him how he feels about you there's nothing wrong with that if you think you two are meant to be and the distance does no matter then follow your heart.
Otherwise id bet on the lad who asked you out , dating is much more fun and better if u can meet often without troubles and since he asked you out and you like him it seems like a pretty good start.
You should definitely base your choice on how do these people treat you along with how u feel about them !

Silhouette

I would go out with the guy who asked you out.

The reason is if your friend is gay, chances are low that he will 'change his mind' to go out with you. He cannot change who he is attracted to, and it may very well be that he is bi-curious, but if he thinks he is gay he could be gay. Its best to take his word and move on from it. Same goes with the girl, you do not know for sure if she is bi or lesbian. I would go with the guy who asked you out, you know for sure that he likes you.

Veni Vidi Vici

I think you're kinda young to already be in love triangles involving multiple sexes for options. You're 13, and many people your age are also confused about who they should like and who they should date. I'd take it easy if I were you as I'm sensing that you feel you need to get something out of this. Weigh your options, and think about it thoroughly; take it slow with this (if you decide to date) so as to make sure you don't make a decision you'll regret later. Hope this helped!

Jaguar

Wow. You have us sitting on the edge or our seats. Be sure to let us know how the story ends.

Sincerely Yours ♥

If you can't really decide who you want to be with, maybe it's best not to date at all right now. It's not fair to someone else if you date them, but still have feelings for someone else. I don't think it's ever fair to either person in the relationship if one settles.

Skeleton

So, you've got one guy who lives far away and says that he might be gay, chances are if that's how he feels it isn't going to change anytime soon. You've got a girl that shows signs of being lesbian/bisexual but unless you ask her, you'll never know so I'd say again, your chances are slim there.

Then, you've got the last guy, you both like each other, you've been on a date together which I'm going to assume is more then you've done with the other two and to be considering him as an options, things must have gone pretty well. I think it's pretty clear who you should pick.

NyanNyan

I told the one who asked me out that I was to confused to have someone else I love in my life, and he was cool with it. Just as I thought my problems got better, a boy who my friend likes started flirting with me and blaming the fact that my failed romance was because I hadn't chosen to come to his football game and he sounded REALLY jealous. Than of course I had to develop a crush on the girl who likes him ughhhh

PSY

Hey there! Since this thread essentially covers the same material that was included in two other threads (here and here), I'm going to go ahead and close this one. Feel free to PM me if you have any questions regarding my decision. Good luck in deciding who to pursue! =)