Is this jealous feeling ever going to go away?

[Dontdomornings92]

Okay long story short my best girl friend is dating my best guy friend, and I like my guy friend. Anyways I am happy for them and I love them together, but I can't help but feel jealous and sad everytime I see them together or hear them talk about one another. It really sucks. The obsessive feeling I get when he dosen't text me back for a really long time, and then the sinking feeling I get when he tells me hes taking to his gf. Don't get me wrong, I would do literally anything for either one of them, they are my best friends, but this feeling really sucks. I feel really lonly and sad and cry about it more than I would like to admit. I really think sometimes I drive myself cazy over this. It's like an involuntary reaction. My brain says I love them together and know they're the prefect couple but my heart says otherwsie.

Anyone else in a similar situation or have any tips or advice for how to deal with this? Thanks!!

[Acheron]

There's not really anything you can do. You certainly shouldn't try to come between them. You'll get over this guy, eventually. But in the meantime, why not find some other guy(s) to distract you? A lot of the time, an obsession with one particular person can be traced back to simply not feeling that you have options.

[Nicole!]

Acheron has it spot on.
It will take some time to get over this, you have to just tough it out and distract yourself. Maybe take a break from talking to them if it hurts, just to save yourself from some pain. Find another guy if you can, one that is single. Its a tricky situation, so above all just don't get mad at yourself for it.

[Dr.Bobby]

Hi Courtney,

This isn't exactly an obsession (fortunately for you), I think it's probably more accurate to call it 'Unrequited love'. You wish it was you. The question, of course, is why isn't it, if he was your best friend, how come it didn't evolve into something more, it sounds like the feelings where there for you.

What to do? Well, acceptance is hard, especially when you're thinking with your heart. As others have said, you might try to find a guy of your own, respond to the feelings and desires you have (your 'heart'), and act on them to get what you need.

Just as an aside, you know the difference btw'n friendship and 'Love'? The former lasts forever. (Translation: What you have with him might actually be better for you in the long run).

[MY NAME IS ERIN]

I totally get what you mean....but, you can't do much. I mean you could try talking to them but what is that gonna do? I don't really think i can give you advice here but just do what you think is right. If they love each other and they are happy then I mean...what can you do?

Good luck!! Keep me posted on what happens!! ^_^

[Dontdomornings92]

Originally Posted by Dr.Bobby

Hi Courtney,

This isn't exactly an obsession (fortunately for you), I think it's probably more accurate to call it 'Unrequited love'. You wish it was you. The question, of course, is why isn't it, if he was your best friend, how come it didn't evolve into something more, it sounds like the feelings where there for you.

What to do? Well, acceptance is hard, especially when you're thinking with your heart. As others have said, you might try to find a guy of your own, respond to the feelings and desires you have (your 'heart'), and act on them to get what you need.

Just as an aside, you know the difference btw'n friendship and 'Love'? The former lasts forever. (Translation: What you have with him might actually be better for you in the long run).

Thank you. He said he liked me, but he liked her more. At one point he was debating between dating me or her. So yes, I believe the feelings were there. We get along great, but we just don't have that same "spark" that they do together.

[Ghost On The Highway]

Ugh, yeah I'd try to find another guy and remain friends with the one you have now. Too bad she's such a good friend or you could try the old "surreptitious sabotage" technique.