I need a little dude advice here

jbaby1 · **I need a little dude advice here -** March 20th 2009, 10:19 PM

So basically, there's this guy that I met at a party a few weeks ago and is really chill. I think we were feeling eachother and we talked a lot and stuff. So like 2 weeks ago, he came to my house and we were laying on my bed and he wanted to hookup. He kept asking me suggestive things like to take his pants off, to straddle him etc. and I wanted to hookup but to be honest, I was just really nervous and I didn't want to be that easy, so I kind of played it off as a joke and didn't make any moves. But he didn't physically try anything either. After that, it seemed awkward at school and he didn't text me unless I texted him. When we hang out, he's quieter than normal but we still sort of click. I want to go on a walk with him and tell him like why I denied him and that I did want to hookup just not right then? I'm sort of into him too but I feel like I shouldn't tell him cause that'll weird him out hah. Guys, what should I say? (More importantly, what shouldn't I say?

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primus diddy · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 20th 2009, 10:25 PM

He probably doesn't think you're as into him as he is into you. He could also feel bad that he might have been pressuring you into something you didn't want to do. Just tell him what you told us. You like him, but you didn't want to do anything at the time. We don't take hints very well, so just be plain about it.

niente_ · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 21st 2009, 10:53 PM

Okay, first off I'd be careful in case you're not the only girl he's asked to hook up with him. You may like him, but be aware that he might have tried taking advantage of that fact ... though I hope I'm wrong. But yeah, the walk thing sounds like a good idea. Good luck x

Seeen · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 22nd 2009, 05:50 PM

lol ive never understood how guys can do that. Like i could never bring myself to tell a girl to do things to me, i just more or less test the waters and see how far i can go haah.

But in this situation hes probably a little embarrassed thats all let him know that you dont care and stuff like thatttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt

NuHalo · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 22nd 2009, 06:04 PM

Hey there,

I think if your into him you should show more interest... he may be getting the wrong idea and feel like his feelings are unrequited to an extent... things should go a bit better, and be a bit less awkward if this is the case. And yes, you didn't have to do anything you didn't want to, and you should take things at your own pace. If you tell him, he should understand and be willing to go a bit slower..

Hope things work out,
Shaun.

Union Of V · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 22nd 2009, 07:07 PM

^^^ What he said.

Basically look at his point of view - he definitely likes you, and starts making advances but you act like it's a joke, QED you don't want him as a bf. So he's doing what most guys do when a it turns out she doesn't actually like him - they try to distance themselves from her.

Youth Pastor · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 22nd 2009, 07:22 PM

One thing that concerns me is how quick he is to try things. This usually makes for a quick relationship because he'll get what he wants and then leave. Sadly in society today females appear to be seen as objects too much so be careful and just remember that your body is yours before it's anyone else's.

icedoverfire · **Re: I need a little dude advice here -** March 23rd 2009, 02:41 AM

**Seconds Erik's advice.

If he tries to move too quickly, SPEAK UP!
You'll know if he's REALLY into you if he starts making an advance you don't want him to, you say "no", and he's like something along the lines of "oh, ok".

Also - see if you can talk to him to get to know him. Otherwise if he just wants physical stuff it's not right at all.

... just my $.02

- ice