too mentaly and emotionaly ustable for a relationship

[EndureEmo]

there is a guy i really like at my new school, he is everything i have always wanted in a guy. hes true, and hes been through alot in his life. we barely talk in person, but over the holidays i had started talking to him over facebook. we talk about things that are really personaly, like his life story which almost made me cry. hes tryed to commit suicide around 12 times. iv told him that i like him and why i like him and things, but the answer i got was hes to mental and emotionaly ustable for a relationship. all the relationship he has been in end up in disaster, he gets cheated on and dumpped almost everytime! i saw him at school on the first day back and i gave him a quick hug just before he had to go to his class. that was on monday, but i had been suspended from school on monday so i havent seen or talked to him after that now its sunday and im not sure if ill be back to school tomorrow or not.
BUT...
how do i gain his trust?
how to i become a closer friend to him?
how do i make sure i dont just end up as a friend to him?
i really like him and i dont want to stuff this up. so thats why i wrote all this and anything elce that will help please reply to this or message me! x eliza

[Aletheia*]

Just continue to be his friend, and talk to him like you normally would. Right now, he's right. He's mentally and emotionally unstable to be with anyone. He needs to focus on himself, to get better, to get rid of these suicidal thoughts he's been having. But, if you continue to be his friend, and let him know you're there for him, he'll come around when he's ready. You can't force him to be ready to be in a relationship. He needs to work on himself. Let him do that.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

Just continue to be his friend, and talk to him like you normally would. Right now, he's right. He's mentally and emotionally unstable to be with anyone. He needs to focus on himself, to get better, to get rid of these suicidal thoughts he's been having. But, if you continue to be his friend, and let him know you're there for him, he'll come around when he's ready. You can't force him to be ready to be in a relationship. He needs to work on himself. Let him do that.

This exactly. For now, just be a good friend to him because if he doesn't want a relationship then there isn't anything you can do. You need to wait until he is ready, and if you are always there for him he will begin to trust you.

[Dr.Bobby]

Eliza, if he's clearly telling you he's not ready for a relationship (and with good reasons!) you have to respect that, regardless of your own feelings, needs, wishes, or desires. It's hard putting someone else's needs ahead of your own, esp. when you feel so strongly attracted!

Don't dismiss or disregard his request, it sounds like you're asking for advice on how to do that and get what you want. Change your own expectation or hope so it doesn't interfere with his needs, or don't be his friend.