Don't Know Anymore

[Angeal]

Okay, so I've made a few post on here about me and my fiance. He tells me that he wants to marry me and that he's getting the ring, but then yesterday I was doing the Bible Study that I run at our school and asked the question, "do you talk about your future?" he said yes, and then added we're getting married December 17. I said what, because we had talked about June of next year after we're both 18. Then he said, not you, but the other girl who is my worst enemy. I almost cried, because it hurt me so much. I love him and he said that he don't want to break up with me,but he needs to marry her because of some reason(if you want to know just PM me) We've been off and on since 9th grade and I really love, but I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying to work it out, but it seems that he just doesn't care. I feel like he's starting to grow distant from me. I try to hold his hand or something, he pulls away or just ignores me. Like Yesterday(Friday October 21, 2011) was our homecoming football game, and we had a pep-rally, well at the pep rally i asked if he wanted to go to the top where my cousin was and hang out with her, but he said no, then when the other girl showed up, he basically ran up there. Whenever he's around her he acts like I'm nobody to him because she don't like me. It hurts so much, that I don't know what to do.

[PlayingPretend]

Did he get her pregnant? To be quite honest, this entire situation sounds like he wants nothing more than to have his main course and a salad on the side. I don't necessarily buy that he's being forced into marrying her. It would have to be an extreme circumstance for me to believe it. My opinion is that if he truly wanted to marry you, he would find a way to do it and he wouldn't be getting married to this girl at all. It sounds more to me like he's stringing you along, frankly. He doesn't sound worth your time, especially since you are essentially "the other woman" and are already seeing some of the drama and feeling some of the pain that comes from that. Off and on relationships are oftentimes some of the strongest, simply because they are almost a physical manifestation of "intermittent reinforcement" which is the strongest known form of reinforcement. My opinion is that you should drop him and move on. No, it's not going to be easy, but it's almost necessary.