Female Advice Preferred: Many A Questions

[Robin]

Soooo Im a guy, im 20, i have a steady well payed job, i have a car i live with my mum with plans to move out next year into my own apartment.

Nope this is not a dating application, these are all contributions to the many questions im about to ask, some are going to be difficult for you to answer due to the lack of knowledge about me, but give it your best these mean alot.

Ok so first a little about me to help you answer the questions, basically im outgoing, i love going clubbing and enjoy hanging out with mates whenever wherever, im always up for anything and pretty much make time for things when i can, Im easy to get along with to start as i tend to mold depending on peoples personalitys which makes it all easier both ways, I consider myself to have a large knowledge of the world around me but achademics not so much (i got all C's) i always make time for friends and if i consider someone a close friend there are pretty much no limits to what i will do, A call at midnight saying they need a hug or someone to talk to and ill be the first then.

when we all go out at night i like to keep everyone safe, make sure no one gets into trouble and have always said to my friends "ill be the first one in and last one out" as i have a tendancy to keep tabs on what people are doing and if they are ok, this does not mean i prevent them having a good time i just like them to know someone is there incase things go sour.

as a boyfriend im very loving, I enjoy the romantic side of it all and am easily pleased by a simple "I love you" or "i miss you" Text, All i ever ask is for a loyal, decent girl who i can talk to and relax around, aslong as they want me and make the effort and care for me i dont ask much more, i do require a bit of maintence though, due to high amounts of cheating ex's i tend to need a bit more love than usual at the start of a relationship. Im protective, not to the point where i wont let them out but if anyone ever hurt them i would quickly wrap a blanket over them (metaphorically) and dive head first in to solve the situation, And of course i love spending time with that person. Probably an important part to all of this is a statment my friend told me, he said "You dont just buy a girl a flower do you? you buy them the whole damn shop" Its true, I will go to stupid lengths to show them how much they mean to me, how happy they make me feel......

Right now onto the bad, im VERY realistic in my thinking, im never optimistic or pessamistic im always on the level no matter what the situation, It causes so much trouble sometimes because people think im being negative when all im doing is looking at the situation that is presented to me. I can get quiet emotional, it sends me off the scales sometimes, its rare that it happens in front of people but when it does i do go the full way, women have found it difficult to deal with at times. I have had anger issues in the past but again these are rare cases now, in the past 6 months i think ive flared up once. last but not least of high importance and a huge part of my life right now is suicide, its taken up so much of my time and the amount of times ive nearly done it is getting far into the double digits, as we speak i have plans to do this within the week but we shall see. I dont generally let people see that much into the suicidal me and usually leave it as a "Im suicidal, dont look at me different i just want you to know" i usually use it as a cry for help when a friend gets to close to me, im not afraid to admit it....i seem to be searching for something to hold onto.

anyway that explanation has gone on far longer than i thought but i suppose it will make the answers more accurate.

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2. Is the way i treat my girlfriends to much? should i play hard to get more?
3. Where am i going wrong in the dating world?

I would appreciate any feedback and thank you for reading this whole post

[Aletheia*]

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2. For this, it really depends on the girl. Obviously, not all girls are going to be the same or like the same things. For me, I like an 'i miss you' or an 'i love you' text or phone call every once in a while. If it becomes too consistent, or happens all the time, it makes me wonder whether we're just throwing the word 'love' around. Too much of that could ruin a relationship. Some girls like it, some girls don't. I'm one of them. It's nice to hear once in a while, since then I know I'm not losing the meaning of the word. If I say it too much, it makes me wonder if I am losing the meaning behind the word love. So, again, it just depends on the girl. Everything else is fine: we all want our men to be protective, just not overbearing. If you try to tell your girlfriends who they can and can't talk too, that's being a little overbearing, and most of us don't like it. You should never try to get a girl to do that since her friends are important to her as well. Again, it's cute to do nice things every once in a while. Just don't make it a habit. We want our men to appreciate us and all we do, but too many gifts make it look like you're trying to buy their love, not show them how much you love them.

3. You aren't doing anything wrong in terms of the dating scene. There is no right or wrong way to go about it. Some of us have better luck at finding a significant other while it takes others several tries before they find the right person. I suppose I was a little bit of both, but that's not the point. You seem like a genuine, great guy who does a lot for their girlfriends, you just seem to take these things to great lengths when it's not needed. If you're out there looking for love, there is going to be a chance that you don't find it, so stop looking. If you stop looking, your chances of finding that right girl will come.

[judymason]

You are indeed a dream guy, well I guess you just have to slow things down or should I say limit yourself when it comes to love learn to love yourself first. When you are in love don't give it all leave something for yourself so if things didn't get right the way you want it to be you still have something for you to start all over again I guess all you need is to find a perfect girl that will give importance to you.