What To Do??

[CaitlinSarah]

Right, me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for nearly two years. we keep breaking up because he either accusses me of cheating or he cheats on me. but we always end up going back out. now i know im only 14 and you would all probly say your to young to know what love is. yeah so but this is my question. what can i do if im forced to go back out with him becuasae he threatens to hurt my family? i cant exactly talk to him because i dont want anyone in my family hurt. i dont know what to do :/ can anone help me? if you need more info im open to give it x thanks to those who answer xx

[craz33me]

My first question is, by hurting your family what does he mean?
Second, how old is he?
and finally, Do you think he'd actually go through with it?


Personally, I think that you should DO what YOU want to do. Not what he wants. If he threatens to hurt your family you should let them know and you should let the authorities know.

[bitchrepellent]

First of welcome to TH :-).

Ok now im going to be brutally honest. Your 'boyfriend' is a total prick. Get rid of him. Your far too young to be getting into this kind of relationship with a boy you don't deserve it and the longer it drags out the more serious it will get. I'm quite sure that unless he is older than 17 - 18 he will not be able to do anything to your family and its generally all talk as a last resort to keep you in his grasp. I know it wont be easy but trust me its something you need to do. Get out while you can.

If you need anymore help give me a PM ill do my best, hope I helped

[PSY]

If your boyfriend has threatened you and/or your family, you need to tell your parents/legal guardians and get the police/school administrators involved immediately. Don't take ANY threats lightly! If you have any evidence (ex. text messages, a friend who overheard what he said), present it to the police/school administrators. Even if you don't have evidence, though, I would get your parents involved. They are in a position to protect you and tell your boyfriend to stay away from your family. If he continues to make threats, you can file a restraining order against him, and if he continues to threaten you after that, further consequences could result for him.

[Dr.Bobby]

Originally Posted by PSY

If your boyfriend has threatened you and/or your family, you need to tell your parents/legal guardians and get the police/school administrators involved immediately. Don't take ANY threats lightly! If you have any evidence (ex. text messages, a friend who overheard what he said), present it to the police/school administrators. Even if you don't have evidence, though, I would get your parents involved. They are in a position to protect you and tell your boyfriend to stay away from your family. If he continues to make threats, you can file a restraining order against him, and if he continues to threaten you after that, further consequences could result for him.

This^>!

Listen, whenever someone actually threatens you or your family, you tell the authorities. Easy.

The harder part is why you cannot figure that out for yourself. 'Love' doesn't mean you sacrifice your (or your family's!) safety. Fear of rejection/abandonment/aloneness is never, ever worth sacrificing your physical or emotional well being for. We call that 'emotional blackmail' and it;s always unacceptable.

Respect yourself enough to see (and do) the right thing here and move on.

[Ambiance]

If he's threatening ANYONE, you need to tell the authorities, like a teacher, parent, or any adult really. Even if it seems like he has more power than them, he doesn't, and anything he threatens to do CAN be prevented. And don't date him; he sounds like a real creep. I know at fourteen, you hear people say you don't know what you're doing, and you think, "I hear that all the time, and it's not true." It is. You just don't have enough life experience or mind developement at fourteen to deal with things as serious as a cheating relationship or abusive boyfriend; it's not an insult to you personally. A sixteen year old doesn't REALLY either. My point being, get out of the relationship, but tell an adult for sure first so you and your family are safe.

[CaitlinSarah]

Wow.. thanks you guys, this morning he rung me and he kept apologizing. i didnt know whether to believe him or not cuz it was the first time he had done it, but i left him when he rung me he cant contact me anymore because weve barred his number. thank you so much you guys. and hes the 15 he said (last night) 'i may not be able to do anything but my mum and dad can. im like yeah you do know youll just get them a life sentence and completely ruin their and your life. really apreicciate the replies guys helped ever so much xx