I find myself hating people.

[cho]

I think this is relative to this forum section..if not I apologize.

I'm a very committed and sensitive person when it comes to relationships. I would never ever do anything to hurt my SO cheating wise. I wouldn't be able to live with myself the guilt and regret would just eat me up! Not to mention how badly I'd feel for putting someone through that. I feel like I shouldn't expect so much out of people becuase they'll just end up letting me down. Maybe my expectations are too high? I'm 18 and it seems that all I ever hear about are couples cheating on each other. About guys being pigs and only using their dicks to think. And how girls are such sluts and don't care if the guy has a girlfriend or not. I feel like monogamist relationships are disappearing. Like I'm bound to get cheated on. Its making me so depressed. I have this hatred towards both sexes because of it. I don't know its just so frustrating. Why do people have to be so selfish?

And all this talk about cheating ( and seeing it at parties ) is turning me into a paranoid and insecure girlfriend. I'm so disappointed. And worried. I don't know what id do if it happened to me. Id be a wreck.

[Chair]

You have to realize that young people don't really go to parties and get pissed drunk to find their soul mate. If they meet someone there and date for a while it's bound to end the same way it started.
There are people that care enough about relationships like yourself, just not in the setting you're looking in. Your desire for a commitment is also your way of being selfish (people at your age tend to want to experiment, and a very committed and sensitive partner doesn't allow that).

You wouldn't be bound to be cheated on if your boyfriend is passed the 'experimenting' phase. From my point of view that's once people find a stable job, or enter their 3rd year in college.

[Aletheia*]

I'm the same way as you: I've seen many failed relationships, heard about cheating and seen it with my own eyes. But, that doesn't mean that my own relationship is going to end up that way. My boyfriend and I met because we were cheating on our ex's with each other; Kind of a crappy situation, but it's the truth of how we met. Just because we've cheated in the past doesn't mean we're going to continue to cheat on each other. We've both been completely faithful for almost 3 years, we'll be celebrating our anniversary in January. You can't continue to compare your relationship with what you see around you. If you do, you'll continue to be paranoid, and such. Trust is a huge part of a relationship and MUST be there in order for it to work. I've said this before, but I'll say it again: if your boyfriend has never given you any reason for you to have doubts, then don't worry about it. It's when he gives you reasons to doubt him when things will go south.