I need help with my relationship.

[hayleydowning]

Hi. My name is Hayley and I just turned fifteen. My mom hates the guy I am with. He is sixteen and a junior in highschool and I am a sophomore. She got mad because he asked me for a revealing picture and she knows I sent it to him. She yelled at me for two hours last night about how I have no self respect and how I will be pregnant by the time I am sixteen. I really like this boy and I want to be with him for a while. I explained to him everything that's going on and he texted me back saying he understands. I told him that I will no longer be sending pictures anymore. Any tips on how to get this boy on my mom's good side? & she got mad at me because I wanted to sleep with him.

[PSY]

You're fifteen, and you want to have sex. What parent in their right mind WOULDN'T be upset after hearing that? I'm sorry, but there's nothing you can say to make your mom like your boyfriend... not when she knows what your motives are.

[Aletheia*]

I'm going to have to agree with Robin. Parents aren't usually excited when they hear their child wants to have sex with their boyfriend.

I'd also like to point out that there should be safety concerns when sending pictures of yourself over text message. Once that picture leaves you, it's no longer in your possession, and it could be sent to anyone, anywhere at any time. You could get into very serious trouble for that, and I hope you reconsider doing that again.

[Nicole!]

I agree with the above two posters.
The only thing you can do is prove to your mother that you understand her concerns and will abide to them. If she sees over time that no more revealing pictures were sent and knows that you two haven't slept together, she may begin to warm up to him. However, most likely she won't like him after this. As Shannon said, she knows your motives now and knows what you want to do with him. Its going to make it hard for her to trust you now.

[TodaysMiracles]

I can say listen to the others here and those speaking from experience being in your situation.

As a parent myself I know your moms concerns are for your well being and safety so consider that as you work on repairing the relationship with her.

First place to start would be honesty .. example you say you are 15 yet your profile says you are 20 ... so as said above think through your actions first consiquences can be large in many cases.

Glad you are seeking help and support though that is a wise first step .. I trust you take your time and think things through before taking steps youwill not like later in life.

[Ambiance]

I would advise you not to have sex yet; but if you do, please use birth control, after all, you DON'T want to end up 16 and pregnant. It sounds to me like you guys have some hormones flying all over the place, which is pretty normal, but you should try to keep that in check. Wait until you guys can really get to know each other, think you're in love, all that good stuff. As far as your mom? She's the adult; she's looking out for your well-being, as well. I would sit down with her, and have a talk, and kind of comprimise. Let her know there won't be any pictures, but that you don't want to have unprotected sex or ruin life due to a relationship and that you and this guy genuinely have feelings for one another.