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Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 11th 2011, 10:27 PM

So, I'm 15 and I went to my boyfriends house for the first time yesterday and I was only able to stay like, 3 1/2 hours after school.. but his friend (who's also my friend) was also over. So we were all in his room, along with his 7 year old brother (who is FAR from innocent for a seven year old.. he know all about sex and condoms and cusses and stuff..) and all they did was play video games for abotu the first hour and a half.. -_-" So I pretty much sat there. Just watching.

And then both his friend and his little brother are in the room and we are in the top bunk, his friend in the bottom, and his little brother off to the side in another chair with his DS out, and he kind of quietly wanted to start making out, right with his 7 year old brother within view! And I flat out said no and pulled away and he he gave me a pouty look and then just went back to video games.

And then later he wanted a back massage and actually pulled his shirt up so it wasn't covering his back and I again said no I wasn't going to give him a back massage, gesturing to the open door, and he was like "why, it's fine with my mom" and then she actually came in while his shirt was still up and she didn't even blink an eye. o_o What the ****.. I don't know, it was all just wierd... :/

Not at all what I expected it would be like and I guess I just wanted to know if guys are normally like this.. when their friends are always over do they always play video games? :/ Because seriously, it was so inconsiderate.. I sat there an hour and a half doing nothing... and then what about the rest of it too..? :/


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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 11th 2011, 10:42 PM

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I just wanted to know if guys are normally like this.. when their friends are always over do they always play video games?

YES. the other stuff is kind of weird, especially the mom not even saying anything. but the video game is not weird at all.


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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 11th 2011, 11:14 PM

Lots of guys love video games, yes. Pretty much all of my guy friends play video games with each other. Maybe next time see if they will let you join in? Who knows, you could find it fun!
Some parents are just less strict than others, but take it as a good thing that she didn't care. Its better than a mom who is constantly watching over to make sure you don't even touch each other.


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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 11th 2011, 11:15 PM

like the above poster said everything but the video games is odd. But what can I say, Us Guys are odd creatures.
   
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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 11th 2011, 11:24 PM

Video games are just a guy thing. I'd always get my boyfriend to stop by distracting him with a kiss and so on.
As far a the little boy, if your not comfortable with it then just let him know.
And with the mom, dude I am soooo jealous! That'd be awesome hahaha. Be grateful for that little gift trust me.
Next time have him over to ur place. No worries.


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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 12th 2011, 05:24 AM

I've been almost in that same situation. When I went to my boyfriend's house three or four times he's had friends over, and what they do is always the same: video games. Next time if that seems to be the case, playfully ask to join in! Then you can make it a group thing and he can find it adorable trying to teach you to kill zombies or something, or letting you win.

Better yet, next time ask him specifically not to have somebody else over so you can enjoy each other's company alone, if that's what you want.

As for the parent thing, it's a good thing that she didn't care, I would say! Though if his shirt is up, it's not that huge of a deal anyways. It's when the pants come off that the red alarms should go off for parents.

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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 12th 2011, 05:32 AM

I was in the same situation.... to me, it was: if you can't beat 'em, join 'em! I played my first videogame at the age of 18 with my fiance. We had something more to share together, and it was kinda fun seeing his face after I beat him a few times :P



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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 13th 2011, 09:52 PM

My boyfriend's like this...but worse He has a 5 year old sister who swears and gives people the finger etc, no-one cares *shrugs*
He'll make out with me in front of her quite happily, or play video games with me there, dw it's annoying but sadly totally normal :/
Well the 5 year old swearing isn't but...
   
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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 14th 2011, 01:27 AM

Well, I don't really have a lot of experience with boys, but my brothers spend 24/7 in their rooms playing very weird, very loud, games. They seem to enjoy it, but I cant figure out what the big deal is lol. Anyway, it does seem a bit rude of him to push you aside like that, but his friend was over, and he probably doesn't have much experience with girls, so he probably didn't know what to do either. Maybe talk to him about it because I wouldn't want that to happen to me either. And as for how the mother reacted to him having his shirt up, she probably just thought that it was innocent since he was facing away from you. And shes probably used to him having his shirt off around the house so she thought nothing of it. If you that uncomfortable going over there, and your afraid this would happen every time, then I would definitely suggest you talk to your boyfriend. What I would be most pissed off about though, is that he allowed his little brother in there, he wanted to make out in front of him, and keep the door open when he wanted a massage. No matter what he says, giving a massage is intimate, and even if his mother wouldn't see it like that, you still do. Oh my gosh, I would be so uncomfortable...


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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 14th 2011, 03:12 AM

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What I would be most pissed off about though, is that he allowed his little brother in there, he wanted to make out in front of him, and keep the door open when he wanted a massage. No matter what he says, giving a massage is intimate, and even if his mother wouldn't see it like that, you still do. Oh my gosh, I would be so uncomfortable...
Thanks everyone for all of the advice! Sounds like the stuff concerning video games just isn't ever going to change, which I suppose I can live with. ^_^ But to the above poster ^^^ I completely agree, his brother should've been gone and massages always end up intimate! I'll talk to him about that and we'll work something out. Thanks again everyone!


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Re: Went to my boyfriend's house for the first time.. not what I expected.. - November 14th 2011, 03:32 AM

Since the OP's question has been answered I am going to go ahead and close this. Feel free to PM me if you want it reopened.


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