Is this cheating?...

[justfallinginlove]

If you read my last post in this particular forum, you'd know I'm involved with my ex. Involved being the operative word. We aren't dating, but only because I haven't committed yet and we just haven't made it official for various reasons.
So last night I went to my (guy) best friend's house. And basically we just chilled and stuff. We always joke around about how overly comfortable we are with each other. So long story short we ended up kissing (no tongue) and he felt me up, and got my shirt off. It wasn't sexual at all tho. We were just goofing around and laughing and stuff about how we just don't care about boundaries with each other.
So to my question, did I cheat?

[Aletheia*]

No. It may not have been sexual to you, but it sounds very sexual to me and I'm sure it will to other people. However, you are NOT with anyone, therefore you have no committment to anyone. Not even your ex.

[Maloo]

It's not technically cheating, but don't be surprised if your ex is pissed if he finds out.

[chickenonsteroids]

Your ex will be annoyed if he finds out because he'll probably think it's cheating though

[Jaguar]

As long as he's your ex and not your current, you're free to do anything you want.

I've had a couple of exes that I got together with and had sex with (like it was anything new) after we broke up and both of us were starting out on new relationships. When your new guy becomes your new bf then you should break off the sexual stuff with your ex.

[Nicole!]

Technically it isn't cheating because you are still single so you have a right to do whatever with whoever. However your ex will probably be upset if he finds out.

[kite8k2]

If you are at all trying to patch things with the EX.....You crossed the line. This is coming from a guy too.

You messed up a little but since you arent exclusive you are riding a FINE line. You have to choose. Things will get dirty fast if they dont.

[LostAngels]

No, in all technicality, you did not cheat.*
However, please take this in to consideration:
There is an infinite amount of people out there who get involved with a particular someone, and don't commit just for the sheer reason of being able to do whatever they want with whomever they want.*
If this was a spur of the moment thing, and you feel at least kind of guilty or like it was wrong, then I think you're in the right state of mind.
However, do NOT be one of those people who put off committing just so they can (for lack of a better term) whore around.
That is when people get hurt, and it is so unfair to him if he's under the impression you have incredibly strong feelings for him and only him. Especially considering its a guy you've already been with.*
If it was some guy you recently met who you're kind of interested in, then I don't see too much of a problem with what you did.*
But considering he is your ex, he probably expected more from you.

Whether or not you should tell your ex about this is completely dependent on a few things.
Do you genuinely feel bad for what you did? If you do, then I advise you don't.*

Do you plan on doing it again?*
If this is an option, then tell your ex so he knows he can go out and do the same.

[FillingWithHope]

Nope, you didn't cheat as everybody else has said. You may feel like you did because you have strong feelings for this other guy.

[justfallinginlove]

LostAngles: It was defiantly spur of the moment, and it was not my intention to not commit just so I could whore around so to speak.

Thanks for the responses everyone. I have now committed to my boyfriend. And it's all behind me. <3

[LostAngels]

Good for you! I'm glad to hear it. Best wishes <3

[Nicole!]

Because the OP's question has been answered, I am going to go ahead and close this.