Male Advice Preferred: Confusing friendship

[Smileandstaystrongx3]

I've liked this guy for 2 years. We aren’t that close, like at all. We talk online sometimes but thats it, we've never talk to eachother at school, i'm scared and he just have never thought to start a conversation or even said hi. I know he doesnt like me, so don't even say that.

1) Why can't he just do me a favour and say hi? It hurts just to walk by him everyday and he doesnt say hi or anything. Btw he knows that and still doesnt do it.

2) I been trying to talk to him on facebook about everything and he just doesnt reply and logs off. With that being said, I would like to have a coversation with him in person so he can't easily get away with it. I don't want to, its more like I NEED to. Theres so many questions that need to be answered and things I want him to know. I need to clear things up. I can't move on until I do this. I have an idea how I can talk to him but its my last option. Do you guys have any ideas of how we can have a talk in person and how to get him to man up and do it?

I'm not by any means saying hes a jerk or asshole. He's actually a pretty decent guy. I have a feeling he just doesnt know what I want or what to do since I have feelings for him and he doesnt. Another thing is that i'm in a wheelchair but besides that i'm pretty normal and he knows that.

[Nicole!]

I'm going to pick this apart a bit.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3

1) Why can't he just do me a favour and say hi? It hurts just to walk by him everyday and he doesnt say hi or anything. Btw he knows that and still doesnt do it.

He knows that you like him? He might not think to say hi, or sometimes he may not see you. Why don't you start saying hi first? Then he might pick up on it and start doing it on his own.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3

2) I been trying to talk to him on facebook about everything and he just doesnt reply and logs off. With that being said, I would like to have a coversation with him in person so he can't easily get away with it. I don't want to, its more like I NEED to. Theres so many questions that need to be answered and things I want him to know. I need to clear things up. I can't move on until I do this. I have an idea how I can talk to him but its my last option.

He may not log off just because you've started talking to him, it may just be poor timing. I know facebook always takes a minute or two before it realizes that someone has logged off. Whenever I log on I usually have a message from someone who sent it after I signed off.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3

Do you guys have any ideas of how we can have a talk in person and how to get him to man up and do it?

Get him to man up and talk to you? Why does he need to do that? Again, why don't you initiate things and talk to him first. Next time you see him at school, just walk up and ask if you can talk to him, then tell him all the things you want him to know.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3

I'm not by any means saying hes a jerk or asshole. He's actually a pretty decent guy. I have a feeling he just doesnt know what I want or what to do since I have feelings for him and he doesnt. Another thing is that i'm in a wheelchair but besides that i'm pretty normal and he knows that.

Since he doesn't know you well, that's probably why he doesn't talk to you. You're going to need to start the conversations to get to know him better and start building a friendship.

[Aletheia*]

I, too, am going to break this in parts as well.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3
1) Why can't he just do me a favour and say hi? It hurts just to walk by him everyday and he doesnt say hi or anything. Btw he knows that and still doesnt do it.

Maybe since you never really talk in person, he isn't talking to you now. He may see you walk by, but he may be incredibly shy and doesn't know how to approach you. Remember, you NEVER talk in person, only online and that's occasionally. He probably assumes that there is no reason to talk to you in person.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3
2) I been trying to talk to him on facebook about everything and he just doesnt reply and logs off. With that being said, I would like to have a coversation with him in person so he can't easily get away with it. I don't want to, its more like I NEED to. Theres so many questions that need to be answered and things I want him to know. I need to clear things up. I can't move on until I do this. I have an idea how I can talk to him but its my last option.

Go up and talk to him if you feel like this is so important. If it's going to help you move on, why wait for him to make the move to talk to you in person? Don't just assume that it's going to be easier talking to him in person. There is a thing called excuses, which he may use to get out of the conversation. I'm sensing that he's ignoring you, and doesn't want to approach the subject. If this is the case, you're going to have to think of another way of moving on since you can't force someone to talk to you about anything.

Do you guys have any ideas of how we can have a talk in person and how to get him to man up and do it?

There isn't any way of getting him 'man up' and talk to you. Take the initiative and approach him first. If we let guys do all of the work, we're probably going to be waiting for a while since men tend not to approach serious conversations so easily. Ask him to talk to you privately.

Originally Posted by Smileandstaystrongx3
I'm not by any means saying hes a jerk or asshole. He's actually a pretty decent guy. I have a feeling he just doesnt know what I want or what to do since I have feelings for him and he doesnt. Another thing is that i'm in a wheelchair but besides that i'm pretty normal and he knows that.

You barely know the guy, and he barely knows you, so this is probably why he's so reluctant to talk to you. The fact that you're in a wheelchair shouldn't play a part in this. If you're trying to get him to have feelings for you, it's not going to happen. You can't force someone to change their feelings, as much as we'd like too.

[ronymajani]

He probably isn't interested in you and is afraid and as for passing by without saying hi, he might be shy and afraid if he says hi then you'll start a conversation or he doesn't realize it cause that's what guys do a lot, so don't take it personally it's just taht you need to give him space and you should forget about him.

[Chris.]

I agree with some of the above comments.

He can be doing this for 2 reasons:

1, He doesnt like you but is trying to be nice about it and may want a friendship but doesnt want to hurt you

2, He might like you but he is afriad of making the first move for fear of rejection or something else.

You seem like a very straight forward girl, so maybe just go up to him and say hi. See how he reacts. See what he does.

Goodluck, my friend!

[Shaytun]

Speaking from experience,
for me I've been in many situations that were similar. Honestly for me, it was just that I didn't know where we stood and even saying something as simple as "hi," was just terrifyingly awkward. I agree with most people here, the easiest way it was to break that for me was by the girl saying "hi," when she saw me, breaking the concept of awkwardness.