Is our relationship moving too fast?

[Aeria]

So I'm 17 (I'll be turning 18 in June next year) and I've been seeing this boy (also 17) for two weeks now. The third time we saw each other, we kissed. This wasn't just a kiss, but a french kiss. We did this quite a few times that night. It was nice, but then on that same night he briefly brought up sleeping together and I told him that I wasn't planning on doing that any time soon. After all, I've never had sex before and quite frankly I'm afraid of doing so because I feel like it would be a physically uncomfortable experience. I told him I wasn't ready and he said he was okay with that, but we've been talking for quite a while every day now and tonight he very briefly brought up the fact that he wants to see me without my clothes on. I told him no and he sounded genuinely embarrassed and apologetic, telling me to let him know if he oversteps boundaries. We moved on quickly from that, but yeah.

Two questions:
1) Is his behavior bad? Good? Normal?
2) And, is our relationship moving way too fast?

[Aletheia*]

His behavior is completely normal. Think about it: he's an hormonal teenager, and I'm not going to deny the fact that all teenagers think about sex at some point. He knows that he's over stepping his boundaries, which is a good thing. He shouldn't pressure you to do anything you're not ready for, and it's good that he seems genuine when he says that he understands that you'd like to take things slowly.

I don't think your relationship is moving too quickly. Kissing isn't a sin, or a bad thing. When you feel comfortable enough to share that special moment with someone, let it happen. If you aren't, and it just happens, the relationship may move in a direction you don't want it to take. There is no time limit to when a relationship should take off, and from the sounds of it, you've added no labels to your relationship with him, eg boyfriend and girlfriend. That would be the next step. Personally, a lot of young people these days rush into things before thinking them through, so taking your time in the beginning was a good idea, and you know now that you've established some boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

Hold onto this guy. He sounds good for you, and he seems genuinely interested.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

His behavior is completely normal. Think about it: he's an hormonal teenager, and I'm not going to deny the fact that all teenagers think about sex at some point. He knows that he's over stepping his boundaries, which is a good thing. He shouldn't pressure you to do anything you're not ready for, and it's good that he seems genuine when he says that he understands that you'd like to take things slowly.

I don't think your relationship is moving too quickly. Kissing isn't a sin, or a bad thing. When you feel comfortable enough to share that special moment with someone, let it happen. If you aren't, and it just happens, the relationship may move in a direction you don't want it to take. There is no time limit to when a relationship should take off, and from the sounds of it, you've added no labels to your relationship with him, eg boyfriend and girlfriend. That would be the next step. Personally, a lot of young people these days rush into things before thinking them through, so taking your time in the beginning was a good idea, and you know now that you've established some boundaries that shouldn't be crossed.

Hold onto this guy. He sounds good for you, and he seems genuinely interested.

I completely agree with this. He's a teenage boy, he's going to want to do things such as see you without clothes on. Whats important is that he respects your wishes to wait before moving on to things like this. French kissing on the 3rd time you saw each other isn't moving too fast either. As Shannon said, its great that he's so interested in you

[LostAngels]

I agree with both the above statements.*
His actions are completely normal, there is absolutely nothing pushy or inappropriate about what he's implying.*
A lot of guys make comments like 'Well, why not..?' and get a little defensive/ moody over the situation. He respects you.*
If a guy didn't make small implications and suggestions like that, then he won't know what you do or do not want.*
You're lucky he's confident enough to bring the subject up subtly rather than keeping quite then assuming on a particular night that the two of you will have sex.*

He's completely in the right here.

[ronymajani]

Well as the 2 wise mentors above said this is typical behavior for every teenage guy and since he knows that he's crossing the boundaries then he is a smart guy and him respecting your wishes is a very sweet thing to do and you are lucky to have a guy that cares about you so much and I can tell you that he really loves you and he would do anything to keep this relationship going so don't worry about anything and your relationship is it going fast or slow it's normal and french kissing is a normal thing to do in a relationship so just keep on doing what you do and live your life. Hope this helps.
Sincerely RNY.M the new teenhelp.org unemployed mentor.

[FillingWithHope]

I agree, its normal for a teenage boy to think that wya. And plus your relationship isn't moving to fast unless you feel uncomfortable with something. If you feel comfortable and you guys have rules then your find but if you feel uncomfortable then maybe you guys should slow it down. And 3 weeks to hae the first kiss isn't to fast at all.