Female Advice Preferred: HELP NEEDED CHOOSING A GIRL TO GO OUT WITH

[ronymajani]

there's 2 girls in my class I kinda like and I wanted to ask one of them out on a date or something like the cinema or something so the 1st one is most likely to say yes but I like the 2nd more but she's less likely to say yes so what do you think, who should I ask out to see the new twilight movie??? (im sure they'll like it) and they don't know me that well out of school so that's why its unlikely theyll say yes cause at school im not cool or anything but im not a nerd. out of school im serious and mature n stuff.

[Aletheia*]

The decision lies within you. I can't tell you whom to choose, because truthfully, neither answer may be what you want to here. If I tell you to choose the first girl, you won't be happy because you don't have romantic feelings for her. If I tell you to choose the second, you may be rejected and I'd hate to see that. Therefore, you need to make the decision.

I'll still give you my opinion though.

First Girl: Since you don't have romantic feelings for her, at least strong ones, and she likes you, it wouldn't be fair to ask her out on a date since she may have expectations that you can't fill, such as a long-term relationship. It's not fair to string her along like that. However, if you think your feelings for her could grow over time, and you want to get to know her, I'd ask her out and see how it goes. Don't make anything exclusive, and make sure she knows that so she doesn't go around telling people you're her boyfriend.

Second Girl: You like her the most, but she's more like to say no, or so you say. People can surprise you, and if she does say no, it's most likely because she hardly knows you, not because she doesn't share your feelings, or because she thinks of you as 'not cool'. Being cool has nothing to do with how people feel about you, and being 'cool' isn't a deciding factor in a relationship, and it's not even important. So throw that thought out of your head before you start believing that it's true.

Ultimately, the decision is for you to make since I can't make it for you. Go with whichever one you want too, just prepare yourself for a 'No' just in case. That's the worst either of them can tell you.

[Nicole!]

I would ask the second girl first because you like her the most. Sure, it may be less likely that she says yes but you'll never know until you ask. So I would ask her first. If she says no, then ask the other girl.
Ultimately, its your decision though. So ask whichever girl you'd rather go on a date with.