Too popular for me???

[ronymajani]

There is this girl who I think I like but still even if I do I don't think I'll have a chance with her cause she's so popular and she knows a lot of people and I'm afraid that I'll embarrass myself cause I'm sure she's met more macho or cooler or taller or more popular than me and maybe she's not my type so do I stand a chance or is it a waste of my time to think about it (getting to know her, taking her out on dates, having a relationship with her) and I barely know more than 5-10 people that know me too and she knows (literally knows) around 30 to 60 people so I think there is no need to take the time to get to know her because it'll never work out between us. Any advice

[Aletheia*]

It's probably a waste of time. Again, you need to stop thinking that you're 'uncool' or 'not macho' because then other people will begin to believe since that's the aura you're giving off to people. But, with this girl, you say she isn't your type. Just because you ask her out doesn't mean she automatically will become your type. You can get to know her, but I don't exactly see the point since you said it wouldn't work out between the two of you. Ask out a girl that you like, and I don't mean just like a little bit. You need to ask out a girl you like a lot. Don't settle for anything less, it's only going to get you hurt in the long run.

[FillingWithHope]

I agree with the above user. It is not healthy to be tearing yourself down as you are by calling yourself "not macho" and "uncool" it is just going to hurt you more. With this girl, I would try finding somebody who is interested in the same stuff that you are because normally if two people are complete opposites then it tends not to work. Have a common ground with this girl and try to connect with her. As I said in your last post, you will find a girl who likes you for you, this popular girl is probably a waste of time because you right now are already talking yourself out of it before you even gave it a chance which means that she isn't the right girl for you. Stay Strong and Positive and sooner or later you will find the girl of your dreams. Best of Luck!

[Nicole!]

I agree with Shannon.
You don't have to be a 'perfect' man to get a girl. Girls don't only go for 'macho' and 'cool' guys. Find a girl who you get along well with and who you really like.

[Chris.]

Been there done that my friend. Have been in the same situation, untill I broke the wall between me and a girl.

Now, I never think Im not cool, or that I dont deserve her. In School, Im in the lawer classes, shes in all honors, eventually I started talking to her. Now we've been on and off for about a year.

Same thing with other girls, way more popular than me, but I dont care, I go after what I think I deserve. If I get rejected, I walk away knowing I tried and atleast I know she isnt interested in me. It doesnt really matter to me that I got rejected because it pays off to ask and miss then to never ask at all and miss 100%. Heres a great quotes to remember:

"You miss 100% of the shots, that you never take."

Might as take a shot at it.

Goodluck!