Problems with ex

[Charlie the wallflower]

So me and this girl dated for about 3 months, it was pretty intense though, I lost my virginity to her, and she was really in love with me. I didnt really feel the same but I said it anyway (I know I shouldnt have, but I had no idea how to repond). Anyhow things got too much and I ended it, but she took it really bad, she keeps sending me messages telling me how much she hates me and she's even said she would kill herself if I got a new Girlfriend.

What should I do?

[Chris.]

Sadly, this happens alot. I have only been here and have heard atleast 3 cases of almost the same thing. Unfortunetly, there isnt much you can do. You obviously have to live your OWN life. Often, people try to say they will kill themselves to gain attention, and to get you to come back to them. But I promise you, If you do go back and then you guys get in a fight or break up again (which is almost a definite) then she will be even worse.

Now, I wouldnt respond to her messages, or texts, or anything, Eventually she will learn to have to move on. Its VERY VERY rare that a person will actually kill themselves when they say something like "If you get a new girlfriend". Most people who are serious about sucide, will not even mention it to people they love and if they do they are low profile about it. Usally when they annonce it they want attention, or they want something - and in this case she wants you back. Like I said start slowly walking away from her. Dont respond to her messages, texts, calls, etc. Then After a few months, put yourself back on the market. Live your life! Unfortunaly, there are alot ofcrazy girls out there! haha, But have fun, live your life, dont stop living to protect someone else, if they really want to take there life, then you cant stop them - there gonna do it no matter what you say.

I hope you can learn to overcome this, and to move on. Trust me, she'll move on as well.

Best wishes,
Chris

[Aletheia*]

Ignore her. Next time you are dating a girl you don't have any particular feelings for, end it before it can get to this point. With your ex, you strung her along for 3 months making her think that you shared her feelings when you didn't. Now, she's choosing to act this way because it's the only way she knows how. Ignore those messages. Don't let this girl be the determining factor on whether or not you should begin dating again.

[Nicole!]

You ended the relationship, so you have to live your own life. She isn't a part of it anymore. As Chris said, she is trying to get your attention and wants you to feel bad for breaking up with her. However, it was for the best because you didn't actually have feelings for her. Its best to not talk to her so she can get over you. All these fights won't accomplish anything but more hurt.

[how.we.operate.]

As everyone has said, don't respond; simply ignore her. She needs time to realize what is happening and you need time for yourself as well.

The best thing to do is really stop talking to her. You may choose how you do so, but no matter what she says, do not respond. Right now, her feelings are scrambled hence the anger and pain. Give her time and space to calm down and move on.

Learn from what happened and use the knowledge in the future.