Pissed off, heartbroken and confused

[sam10037]

So today was a fine day until history club with my girlfriend. Every now and then she hits me so we could just get a laugh. Today though was different because she slapped me across the face thinking its a joke and everyone in the club was laughing at me and including her. I got angry and ignored her and finally she caught on and she got upset. We started fighting until her mom cam picked her up. I was texting her and she said I was the one who caused her to get upset and its all my fault. She made me feel so bad that I was asking for forgiveness on something she had done to me. I was doing that all day until she said I have to prove my love for her by next Monday. I was constantly saying how I love her and things like that but she refused to believe me. She said this is the second time SHE (yes she) has been heartbroken in a month. Last fight I understand it was my fault and I told her that and things were settled but now I feel used and mistreated . What should I do from here I love her but I don't know.

[Nicole!]

You really need to have a talk with her. It sounds like she can't stand to be the one who made a mistake, so instead she turns it around and makes it your fault, when it isn't. You shouldn't have to apologize, after all she is the one who upset you in the first place. She should believe you when you say you love her as well. How does she want you to prove it?

[The Goblins Blade]

Leave her, she sounds like a horrible person. You are only 15 mate so dont worry about it.

[sam10037]

Originally Posted by Melody

You really need to have a talk with her. It sounds like she can't stand to be the one who made a mistake, so instead she turns it around and makes it your fault, when it isn't. You shouldn't have to apologize, after all she is the one who upset you in the first place. She should believe you when you say you love her as well. How does she want you to prove it?

She said we are on different levels because she has been dating for 2 years now and I am now just starting. She wants me to prove my love for her by just acting like a boyfriend which I already do and she said she would make up her mind by Monday.

[Aletheia*]

You shouldn't have to prove anything to her. One: She's the one who hurt you by slapping you across the face causing the entire club to laugh. If I were you, I'd be upset too. It's one thing to slap each other jokingly on the arm, but when you are fully slapped across the face, that's a line that should NEVER be crossed. Two: It sounds like she's turning everything around so that she can blame you for everything. This isn't right, and she should be the one apologizing, not you.

I would just go about everything as you normally would. You don't have to prove anything to her because now, she's just looking for excuses.

[Chris.]

I agree with Shannon on this one, (which I often do - She gives GREAT advice!)

You don't have to prove anything to her!

Unfortunately, I know how these kinds of girls are, and she it trying to put a time line on you - don't try to show her your love - just do what you normally do. Once Monday rolls around, if she says something, tell her what we just said: I don't have to prove anything to you, I love you, and you know that, and if you don't want to believe me than thats something YOU have to deal with.

If she decides its best to break up then go ahead - there are girls out there that would love to have a guy like you - and a guy that tells her "I love you". If this happens, Go find someone who will give the same amount of respect and love that you give - thats the only time a relationship will last.


Best wishes,
Chris

[Winston1994]

As a new member to this site, I'd just like to mention how impressed I am by the great advice that's being given on the threads that I've read. With that in mind, I can't really top what these people have said here. There's a song that I think perfectly fits what's wrong with your love life (isn't that always the case). It's called I Got It Bad, and it's a classic from the 1930s or 40s, I can't remember which decade. When Monday rolls around, if she doesn't believe that you love her, leave. Speaking from experience, it's much easier to get over relationships than it originally seems. If she does believe you and keeps you on for a while longer, however, leave as soon as something like that happens again. Promise me that.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by sam10037

She said we are on different levels because she has been dating for 2 years now and I am now just starting. She wants me to prove my love for her by just acting like a boyfriend which I already do and she said she would make up her mind by Monday.

Sounds like shes seeking attention if she will make her decision based on good actions. You shouldn't have to prove anything to her, as you said you already act like a boyfriend to her.