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So Confused.... - December 6th 2011, 07:54 AM

Alright so recently I found the woman I love and am going to spend my life together with, but then I look back at my ex, whom I loved a lot more than this girl now mainly because I have known her longer. Why when I keep trying to get it in my head that she is a friend that all these emotions come back? This new girl is ALL I COULD EVER WANTED. I mean we get along way better than my ex, but still I feel for my ex. Why is this? Why can't I move on?

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Re: So Confused.... - December 6th 2011, 05:05 PM

Your ex had a huge impact on your life, so it's not unnatural that you still have feelings for her. That doesn't mean you can't love this new girl the same way if not more than your ex. I would advise you not to make a move on this new girl until you've completely gotten over your ex. If you can't put your all into this new girl, it's not fair for her since you're spending all this time thinking about what might have been, and ultimately, she'll feel like she's getting used and lead on. It's not fair for you either, since you want to be committed to this new girl but you can't.

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Re: So Confused.... - December 6th 2011, 09:43 PM

Shannon is right.

Once you build such a HUGE relationship and bond with someone, you aren't able to just throw it in the garbage and say "Oh well it was fun, but I have to go now". The memories, the bond, the relationship and how it was will always be with you. I would just try to focus on the girl you have in your life right now - the girl that you love and the girl that you don't want to lose. This is the girl that will get you places, and will fill your heart and life with joy and love.

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I hope you know that you deserve it all. The best, the most honest, the most beautiful purest love in the world. Not only to be loved by others, but to be loved by yourself. To look in the mirror and think "Yes, I'm exactly who I want to be". To speak up and be proud of yourself. To be brave and open. You deserve the nicest and most caring people to walk into your life. You deserve it all, you know. The whole world...
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