What's Wrong With Me? I Can't Move On

[Dewdrop]

Yes, it's one of those first love threads again. But I've been struggling to get over mine for over a year now. I've had extremely strong feelings for this guy since I was 16, and I'm almost 18 now. I've cut off all contact for a year and I still feel something for him when I see him. Whenever I try to go out with other guys and they dump me I always go back to thinking about him. I know he has never had any feelings for me and I want to forget him but I just can't for some reason.

Has anyone here gone through anything like this? Or is there something seriously wrong with me?

[Aletheia*]

Getting over a first love is hard. Sounds cliche, but time really does heal everything. You did the right thing by ending contact. Seeing him is just the difficult part. Is there any way of avoiding seeing him in person?

[k0d3x]

It'll pass with due time. Many people myself included have gone through similar experiences espes especially with first loves. Maybe when you get a new partner it'll pass or maybe it'll take a bit longer but you're 17 so I assure you you'll have plenty more guys to meet.

[Nicole!]

It will be easier if you can avoid seeing him. Cutting off contact may be tough, but it is a good decision to help you get over him. You're still young, you'll meet lots of other guys that are amazing. I think you should hold off from dating however until you are completely over this other guy.

[Dewdrop]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

Getting over a first love is hard. Sounds cliche, but time really does heal everything. You did the right thing by ending contact. Seeing him is just the difficult part. Is there any way of avoiding seeing him in person?

Sadly, no. We take the same classes together and our last names fall close together. Thankfully we completely ignore each other so I don't have to put up with him any more than I have to.

It hurts so much...feels like I'm never going to completely get over it.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Dewdrop

Sadly, no. We take the same classes together and our last names fall close together. Thankfully we completely ignore each other so I don't have to put up with him any more than I have to.

It hurts so much...feels like I'm never going to completely get over it.

I know what that's like. After me and my ex broke up I couldn't see myself with anyone else. However, I promise you that it will go away with time. Just continue to ignore him and distract yourself with hobbies you enjoy, including spending time with friends and family.

[Iris. ♥]

I'm going through the same thing right now. But, I promise it'll get easier. There's a song by Sara Evans. You should listen to it here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4f3c8wC8Qs. What the song says is true. You will get stronger with every passing day. You might not notice it, but it'll happen. One day, you'll look back and wonder how you ever let yourself get stuck on him for so long. Stay strong!

[Lu82]

youre not alone if this makes you feel better, after 2 yrs im still thinking about this guy who didnt care about me not even a bit.Sometimes i just want to move on and just forget about himm but the stupid heart wont let go of him.And now i dont think ill ever feel something like that for anyone else.

[IMCAT]

It's a matter of taking the time to feel what you got inside and get in touch with it.
i have difficulties of my own, don't get me wrong.However, getting over it depends on how you decide to deal with it.The mind is a powerful faculty.

This said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.It is absolutely normal.best thing you can do is ask yourself the right questions that will get you the right answers.

I really wish i could've been of more help..