Confused/relationship/maybe depressed?

[joedoc1994]

I feel like i'm depressed and idk y. Every girl tht ive tried goin on dates with or ive tried dating has just screwed me over. All i want is a girlfriend/some1 to be there for me wen times r rough. wat shud i do?

[Nicole!]

Well you're only 17 still, you might have lots of relationships in your lifetime. Just because in the past girls have screwed you over doesn't mean that every girl is like that. Instead of stressing yourself out looking for a girlfriend, let love come to you. You have to stay hopeful and realize that there is nothing wrong with you.
As for fixing the depression its giving you, think about all the great things about being single. You have freedom, you can flirt with whoever you want, etc. You don't need a girlfriend to be happy. Independence is a virtue.

[Chris.]

I just want to say that I know the feeling, my friend.

When you look for love (or a relationship), chances are you wont find it nor get it. Stop looking for it, stop thinking every girl you see is a possible target. Be yourself, and be friendly. Don't think about finding someone to love. In most cases we run into those who we end up dating and love by accident or by not thinking about it. When you focus on it, then you you subconsciously pick out negative things about the person, you start to judge, and then believe it or not some people will recognize that you are desperate and will run for the hills.

The best thing you can do right now it to be socially active. Hangout with friends, go to the mall, do things after school, do your thing! You wont find your love by sitting in your bedroom, or staying in on weekends. So go out and have fun. Be socially active - talk more! The more socially active you are, the better chances of you finding someone, and the better that you will feel. It will take time to become socially active! Be patent.

Best wishes,
Chris