Female Advice Preferred: What do I do in this situation?

[Forgotten]

Hey,

So, summing up a long story...

A few months ago, I liked this girl, and I never did anything about it. I kept quiet. I thought she didn't like me, and that's why I did nothing. After a while, I learned that she liked me back, and as a result of doing nothing, I had missed my chance at it.

Just recently, I've started to like her again. However, just a few days ago (around 6 days to be precise), she began dating someone. I don't think I'm friend-zoned with her, and everything is always awesome when we talk. I've talked to her friend about this, and she says that I'm an idiot and am always missing my chances...

I asked what she meant, and what I was supposed to do, and she told me "I dunno".

What should I do? I missed my chance last time, but now, she's already dating someone...

[Nicole!]

Well if she is dating someone now, then you did miss your chance. However, who knows she may realize she doesn't actually like this guy and then you'll get a second chance.
What she meant by that, is that you need to be brave and step up and say how you feel. Otherwise, nothing will happen and most likely the girl will move on and find someone else, as this girl did.

[Forgotten]

So then, even if she's dating someone, I should come out to her and tell her that I like her? What should my expected response be, lol?

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by Forgotten

So then, even if she's dating someone, I should come out to her and tell her that I like her? What should my expected response be, lol?

No, that's not what she was implying. What Nicole meant is that while you missed this chance, she may realize she doesn't like this guy. Since the relationship is new, it may happen very quickly. Or, she may end up in a long-term relationship with this guy. It's really too early to tell what the outcome is going to be. However, don't let her in on your feelings right now. She's in a new relationship, and she wouldn't be if she didn't have SOME feelings for the guy. Wait until she has ended her relationship to tell her. Just expect any response. Since you didn't make a move the first time, she may have completely moved on from it.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

No, that's not what she was implying. What Nicole meant is that while you missed this chance, she may realize she doesn't like this guy. Since the relationship is new, it may happen very quickly. Or, she may end up in a long-term relationship with this guy. It's really too early to tell what the outcome is going to be. However, don't let her in on your feelings right now. She's in a new relationship, and she wouldn't be if she didn't have SOME feelings for the guy. Wait until she has ended her relationship to tell her. Just expect any response. Since you didn't make a move the first time, she may have completely moved on from it.

This is correct. She isn't available if she is in a relationship, so most likely she won't dump her current boyfriend to date you. She wants to be with him right now.

[Forgotten]

So then what do you suggest I do? Just keep quiet? Wait for them to break up and then say something, or..?

[Nicole!]

I think for now you should work on moving on rather than waiting for them to break up. You don't know how long you will be waiting, and that will probably cause more pain. Its best to let it go and find someone who is available.

[helloovee]

DO NOT WAIT FOR THEM TO BREAK UP.

i was in a similar situation a few years back, and heres what happened. i liked him. he liked me. he didnt know i liked him back. he began dating this girl and i thought "ill just wait till the break up", well, they didnt! i still decided to tell him a year later how i felt, and he told me how stupid i was for not telling him how i felt.

if you reallly like her, and think you can treat her good, telll her. now. before its too late. you choices right now are either completely move on, or tell her how you feel and take a risk. honestly, what have you got to loose?

[through.these.blue.eyes.]

Yes, f she is dating someone, you did miss your chance. But do not fret! it does not mean you wont get another (:

by her saying what she did, i believe that the next time she is available, it will be in your best interest to ask her out. What she means is, "i like you too, but now i;m dating someone else. you should have spoken up sooner." (or, at least, i believe that's what she is saying.

I hope that helps. best of luck!